btr.org – btr.org has daily, online group and individual coaching sessions for victims of emotional & psychological abuse and sexual coercion. For women experiencing pain, chaos, and isolation due to their husband’s abuse: lying, gaslighting, manipulation, porn use, cheating, infidelity, emotional abuse, and narcissistic abuse. We recognize that labeling a woman as codependent is a form of victim blaming. Pornography addiction / sex addiction are a domestic abuse issue. Narcissistic abuse is ...
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BEAUTY BEYOND BETRAYAL - Heal from Betrayal, Affair Recovery, Betrayal Trauma Recovery
Lisa Limehouse - Christian Betrayal Trauma Specialist, Affair Recovery Coach, Certified Life Coach, Phoenix Rising
Hope and Healing for Christian Women Have you just found out your husband has sexually betrayed you? Do you feel like the pain will never end? Are you so overwhelmed that you just don’t know how to navigate through the trauma it has brought upon you? Do you feel like you will never trust anyone ever again? In this podcast you will find biblical guidance, pure honesty and tactical solutions that will help you heal from the betrayal of an affair. My mission is to help you heal from the devasta ...
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Choose To Be with Choose Recovery Services; Betrayal Trauma Healing
Choose Recovery Services - Alana Gordon and Amie Woolsey
Choose To Be is focused on women healing from infidelity, and betrayal trauma. We are committed to helping women heal. Be a part of the conversation as we interview experts and others who have gone through this journey and gain tools to help you move forward. Alana and Amie bring their own experiences to the conversation, and their individual expertise makes for a unique and valuable resource. Alana Gordon-MFTI, CCPS, CSAT candidate, Betrayal Coach Amie Woolsey-Betrayal Coach, CPC, ELI-MP, A ...
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5 ways to redeem precious memories when they have been tainted by betrayal | E161
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Today is Q & A day! Sarah sent in a question and asked how can you redeem the precious memories within your relationship when they have been tainted by betrayal? I am giving you 5 ways to "take back" what is rightfully yours. MORE RESOURSES: Beauty Beyond Betrayal Website: www.beautybeyondbetrayal.org Work with Lisa: Coaching Information Join our B…
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ADHD is Not An Excuse But An Explanation - with Luke Gordon
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Is your partner using ADHD or another diagnosis to excuse deception and bad behavior? In this episode, Alana and Amie welcome Luke Gordon (cofounder of Choose Recovery Services and certified betrayal trauma coach) back to their podcast. Luke gives his perspective on how ADHD can explain certain behaviors but should never be weaponized or used as an…
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Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality – The Best Resource
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In a world that has normalized pornography and romanticizes unhealthy relationships, parents need help to learn how to teach healthy sexuality to their children. Luckily, there are resources to help parents teach healthy sexuality in a way that works for everyone. This episode is Part Two of Anne’s interview with Dina Alexander. Part One: The “Sex …
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First steps for the Unfaithful after discovery | E160
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In the aftermath of a discovery, there is chaos. Your spouse discovered your affair or sexual addiction. This was followed by shock, anger, sadness and an array of emotions. Now there is this huge disconnect between you. You view the story one way while your spouse sees it from a very different perspective. You are in crisis mode! What do you do? Y…
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How to Talk To Your Kids About Sex
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Wondering how to have the sex talk with your kids? Here are a few ideas to help you be a safe place for your kids to turn for sex education. Dina Alexander, founder and CEO of Educate and Empower Kids shares what YOU need to know as you prepare to have the sex talk with your kids. Topics include sex, pornography, and body image. This episode is Par…
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What Does "Get In Your Body" Mean?
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Your body is keeping secrets - traumatic memories and intense emotions locked away at a cellular level. In this episode, Amie and Alana dive into the science of how the body “keeps the score,” storing experiences that your conscious mind has disconnected from. Learn how to unlock your body’s innate wisdom to truly heal. Listen to learn: How emotion…
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5 steps to begin healing from betrayal trauma | E159
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When you discover your spouse has betrayed you through sexual addiction or an affair, you are thrown into unknown territory. Your reality has been altered, your world as you knew it has ended, and your life has shattered into a billion pieces. It is like being in a major accident you didn't cause, yet you have been critically injured and now you ar…
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When His Sexual Fantasy Signals Abusive Control
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In an informal survey of sex addicts, they relayed that fantasy about sex was mainly about control. They admitted that when they couldn’t control sex, it was frustrating. If you’re married to a man like this, here’s what you need to know. Manipulative Men Enjoy Fantasy Because They Can Control Every Detail Any domestic violence expert will tell you…
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Is Ketamine Right For Me?
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Imagine being able to rewire your brain to heal from the devastation of betrayal trauma and PTSD. Many who have tried ketamine say they have done just that. On this episode, Alana explains what ketamine is and how it can help receptors in your brain work together to promote healing from the pain of trauma. Listen in as Alana shares her experience w…
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Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma | E158
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You are depressed, overwhelmed, can't sleep, can't eat, and you have unexplained pain throughout your body since you've discovered your spouse betrayed you. Are these symptoms of betrayal trauma? Are there more? We are looking at an extensive, yet not exhaustive list of betrayal trauma symptoms in today's episode. Grab your pen and paper so you can…
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Should I Divorce My Husband for Emotional Abuse? Can I?
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J.R. is back on The BTR.ORG Podcast sharing her story. She struggled to know if she should divorce her emotionally abusive husband. Then she struggled to know if her her religious beliefs allowed her to divorce him for emotional abuse. She also struggled with whether or not she wanted to divorce him. If you relate to this, hopefully this informatio…
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Quit Moralizing Your Emotions!
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Are you constantly judging your emotions as good or bad? Do you feel guilty for experiencing “negative” feelings? In this episode, Amie dives deep into the tendency we often have of moralizing our emotions. Learn why it’s important to notice and name your feelings, to become aware of when you might be suppressing emotions, and how to embrace all of…
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Is Betrayal Trauma a real thing? | E157
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Sexual Betrayal is one of the most traumatizing experiences a woman can ever go through in life. The one you gave your heart to, the one who you put your complete trust in, the one who you love with all your heart has given himself to another. Had an affair, be it emotional, physical, or both. Or maybe it is pornography with sexual addiction. Eithe…
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My Husband Says I’m the Problem. Is He Right?
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J.R. spent nearly a decade “working on herself”, trying to be a better wife to improve her marriage. She didn’t know she needed to learn about emotional and psychological abuse to realize that she wasn’t the problem. If you’re husband says your the problem, there may be something else going on. This episode is Part One of Anne’s interview with J.R.…
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Why Addicts Need To Do Their Work Part II; Helping Children Heal with Luke Gordon
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Have you ever felt so overwhelmed by the damage caused by your addiction that giving up seemed like the only option? In this episode, Luke Gordon, cofounder and coach at Choose Recovery Services, as well as a father in recovery, opens up about grappling with feelings of hopelessness when facing attachment wounds inflicted on his children because of…
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How to set realistic expectations for yourself after betrayal. | E156
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Betrayal knocks you off your feet. It turns your world upside down. Your mind is constantly racing and won't stop, your body is fatigued and you don't feel like you can go another minute. But there is so much to do. People to take care of. Places to go. Why won't the world just STOP and recognize you are in pain. You've been betrayed and it's like …
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5 simple ways to re-establish vulnerability in your marriage after betrayal | E155
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Just the thought of being vulnerable with your spouse after you discover they have betrayed you can be frightening. I get it. I remember thinking to myself, "I will NEVER open up to him again. I will NEVER let him into my heart again. I will NEVER share my thoughts, desires, hopes or dreams with him ever again!" I was wounded, devastated, and didn'…
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Should I risk being vulnerable if we are reconciling after betrayal? E154
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After betrayal, even if you've decided to reconcile the relationship, you can still have a hard time being vulnerable with your spouse. What if he/she betrays be again? What if I get hurt again? What if they lie to me again? What if he/she judges my feelings? All these are valid fears. But how can we get past our fears and anxiety to become vulnera…
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Where Can I Find Resources to Stop Human Trafficking?
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The global severity of human trafficking and sexual exploitation is clear. Melea Stephens is on The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Podcast to explain what you can do to stop human trafficking and sexual exploitation. Here at BTR.ORG, we deeply appreciate the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) and the important work they do. Learn more about N…
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Why the Addict Needs to Do Their Own Attachment Work - with Luke Gordon
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This week we are excited to welcome Luke Gordon to the podcast! Luke is an emotional health coach and cofounder of Choose Recovery Services who specializes in helping men overcome unwanted sexual compulsive behaviors. Luke shares how disruptions in our earliest childhood attachments form the foundation for later challenges like addiction, unhealthy…
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Can my marriage be salvaged after betrayal? 3 questions to ask before you call it quits. E153
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Can your marriage really survive betrayal? Can you salvage it and pick up the pieces to build a better relationship on the other side of infidelity? How do I know if I should stay with my spouse after he/she cheated on me? In today's episode, we are looking at 3 questions that can help you decide if you should stay or go after betrayal. I pray this…
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Is there a way to shortcut the healing process from betrayal trauma? E152
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Betrayal HURTS! It's devastating and the loss is great. We want to run and hide from the pain. Just thinking about having to do any kind of healing work can be overwhelming and exhausting. Is there a way to shortcut the healing process from betrayal trauma? And if we shortcut, will it help? Today, I'm sharing 4 ways we seek to "shortcut" the proces…
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How to Set Boundaries In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship
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Learning how to set boundaries in an emotionally abusive relationship may feel confusing and overwhelming. But here at BTR.ORG, we know that with the proper tools – including support and self-compassion – you can master boundary-setting and begin your journey to emotional safety and healing. Elizabeth, a member of the BTR.ORG community, is back on …
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Supporting Teens and Young Adults Through Parental Betrayal - With Morgan Ellsworth
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When parents have experienced betrayal in their relationship, the entire family system is impacted. Teens and young adults are old enough to sense things are amiss, but may not understand everything that’s happening in their parents’ world. In today’s episode we are excited to welcome Morgan Ellsworth, a life coach at Choose Recovery Services. She …
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E151: 8 Steps to take to get unstuck from the trauma of betrayal
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Why do some heal faster than others from betrayal trauma? In Part 1 of this 2 Part Episode, I shared what keeps you stuck in the trauma of the betrayal. In Part 2 - we are looking at what you can do to finally begin to move out of the quicksand of betrayal and loss so you can begin to love your life again and actually thrive on the other side of th…
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E150: Why do some heal faster than others from betrayal trauma? Part 1
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Why do some heal faster than others from betrayal trauma? 🧐Have you ever wondered why some are able to move on from the devastating effects of betrayal and even Thrive? Have you ever wondered why there are those that just can’t get past the trauma? 🤔Could it be that the first group or just more resilient or it’s possible they have a certain persona…
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Is the Cycle of Abuse a Myth?
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Although it might not necessarily look like a cycle, emotional abuse shows up in patterns. If you know what to look for, understanding the cycle of abuse can help you understand your situation. “I felt like something was off…but I didn’t know what to look for.” Elizabeth, like many victims of hidden abuse, felt unsettled early on in the relationshi…
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Attachment and Children as You Navigate Betrayal
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We know attachment can suffer between partners when there’s been betrayal or trauma, but how are our kids’ attachments impacted? In today’s episode, Amie and Alana unpack how to be a solid anchor for your children during hard times. Learn how to be grounded, regulated, and vulnerable to help your children stay securely attached to you even amidst c…
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E149: Is my marriage to blame for the affair?
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Many would like to blame marital problems to justify their affair. Or even use the difficulties within the marital relationship as an excuse to stray. But let me just begin today with truth… Marriages don’t cause affairs. Good or bad. Many who have affairs actually have good marriages. And then there are those whose marriages are difficult - both h…
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E148: Am I vulnerable to an affair? 3 Individual factors to consider. Part 2
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Why are some people more vulnerable to an affair than others? Last episode, we explored social factors that can create vulnerability. (The link to Part 1 is below) In today’s episode, I want to help you understand the individual factors that can make you vulnerable. Let me just begin by restating what I said in the last episode: What I am sharing w…
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Here Are My Emotions in the Aftermath of Abuse
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Is It Me? Is It Him? Attachment Broken Down
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Do you ever feel tangled up in knots trying to understand where your relationship pain stems from? How can you tell if your pain is coming from childhood attachment wounds or current betrayal trauma? This week Amie and Alana help us learn how to unravel old and new attachment knots and walk us through what we can do to feel secure again in our rela…
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E147: What makes someone vulnerable to an affair? Part 1
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Why is it that 2 people can be in the same relationship - good or bad - yet one cheats and the other stays faithful? What made the one who betrayed vulnerable to an affair? Why did the other stay faithful? I'm sure these questions have crossed your mind at some point if you have been betrayed. This is part 1 of a 3 part series exploring what really…
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This is How You Know It’s Time to Leave
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Anne Blythe, M.Ed.
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A.R.E. You There For Me? Attachment Practice Tool
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Have you ever felt disconnected, even when your partner is right beside you? In these situations, ask yourself, “A.R.E. you there for me?” Amie and Alana break down the acronym "A.R.E." to give you a tool to help you set the foundation for meaningful bonds, communication and attachment. Learn how to deepen your connection so you can be there for ot…
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E146: Can our marriage be better after sexual addiction and infidelity? Part 2 interview with Joy & Josh Drago
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Join us in today's episode where we pick up in Part 2 of our interview with Joy & Josh Drago. They are sharing their story of redemption after facing sexual addiction and infidelity in their marriage. Their story is inspiring and encouraging for those who have faced the devastation of betrayal. Josh's Book: The Field Guide To Freedom Josh Drago Web…
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E145: Can your marriage really survive sexual addiction and infidelity? Interview with Joy & Josh Drago
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Betrayal - It consists of pornography, sexual addiction, emotional and physical infidelity. Can your marriage really survive after you have these infiltrate your relationship? How can you heal, recover, and come out even better on the other side? Is it really possible? I had the priviledge of interviewing Joy & Josh Drago and in today's episode, th…
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Walking Away After 30 Years of Narcissistic Abuse
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Vicki shares the heartbreaking reality of what 30 years with a covert abuser is like for a family - a nightmare of manipulation, control, and silent suffering.Anne Blythe, M.Ed.
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Attachment Theory - When It's Helpful and When It's Not
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Do you crave deep connection but struggle to let partners in? Have you ever accused loved ones of being distant when they simply needed space? These behaviors could stem from your attachment style. Join Amie and Alana as they delve into attachment theory and how our attachment styles formed in childhood become blueprints for our relationships throu…
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