Topics include:Why am I not interested in sexy any more after having a baby?How do I get my wife to rest without guilt?Why does my wife dismiss my advice when she asks for it?How do I get my wife engaged in sexual growth?Are men infatuated with their ejaculate?Jay Dee

Marriage is a cosmic tapestry, a constellation of souls woven into the fabric of time, where vows echo in the heart's language, shaping a journey of shared whispers and laughter. It's a dance of compromise and compassion, a symphony where individual melodies blend into a shared harmony, with time sculpting the narrative of a joint odyssey. Amidst l…

I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called "duty sex" or "pity sex." For those who don't know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to sex, not because they desire it themselves, but because their spouse does. They might have sex for many reasons, including feelin…

Today I've got something a bit different than the usual fare. Last year, for our 100th episode, I had my eldest daughter present her 4H speech as I felt it fit the scope of this blog. This year, she wrote a part 2. She won at her local club, and placed second at districts. So, we thought we'd record a version for the podcast again. Rather than give…

Topics include:The monthly masturbation challengeHow do I make anal sex enjoyable for her?Periods and vacations and sexAging and orgasm strugglesHow do I know if I’m in right?Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared experience?Condoms for handjobsResources for newlywed virginsJay Dee

If you look online, you can find tons of videos, articles, podcasts, products and more about how to make yourself more attractive to your spouse or potential partners. I mean, it's everywhere. You can also find resources to help you make your spouse more attractive by changing them. What you don't see much of, though, are resources to help you chan…

I made a post on social media some time ago saying, “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard, choose your hard,” and someone asked me if I then disagreed with some other bloggers and podcasters who say that marriage is and should be easy. This post expands on what I wrote in response to that question.Jay Dee

A few years ago, I was talking to a client during a coaching call, and we got off on a bit of a tangent about condom use. I explained a few ways that people tend to lower the protection of condoms when they use them. He was, well, shocked because he'd done many of them and had no idea that every time he did that, he was increasing the chance of con…

Topics include:How do you use a vibrator?Is roleplaying marriage a sin?Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband?Wife makes excuses about everythingWhen to start talking to your kids about sex?Wife caught me watching pornIs masturbation without porn a sin?Jay Dee

The traditional wedding vows go something like "I take you to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live."Unfortunately, I don't remember my wedding vows. I remembe…

Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her. She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (playing Supernatural on the VR - in case any others a…

Lately, I've noticed a trend on social media where famous creator couples make videos of the wife telling the husband that visitors are coming over and they need to prepare. In response, the husband goes and starts cleaning out the attic and crawlspace, going through keepsakes, and performing other tasks that do little to achieve the intended goal …

Topics include: Can I use a strap-on on my wife?My husband’s ex-girlfriendWhat’s a foreskin for?Jay Dee

I had a wife ask, "Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely?" This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was for us dying on the cross.Jay Dee

Topics Include:A husband's changing orgasmsCan widowers masturbateHusband won't stop masturbation habitCalling husband "daddy"Feeling guilty about initiating sexJay Dee

Answering the question:Hi Jay, I've noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what's considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there's a lot of pressure to perform sexually. This means being able to become sexually aroused when seeing a naked woman (my wife in this case), being able to…

Topics include:Sex in heavenOral sex positionsHow to recover from an affairI want to become a momJay Dee

Topics include:My wife feels disrespected because I notice other womenWife is hurt but not healing after yearsWife disconnects during foreplayWhat can we do during fertile daysOral sex questionsHusband doesn't know our anniversary dateShould I be worried if I'm late?In-laws over-share about sexFantasies for couplesLow-drive husbandPeriod sex…

Topics Include:CrossdressingReframing "duty" sexWife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn'tAfraid to have more childrenJay Dee

One of the most confusing subjects in Christianity is the topic of hell. The popular view is that hell is a place of eternal torment where vengeful God sends you for all of eternity for not obeying Him. People use this belief to try and scare people into being Christians. Let's see what the Bible says about hell. Do people get tortured for eternity…

Topics include:Wife wants too much sexCouple needs counsellingKeep having the same unproductive fightMake boundaries before you start datingSexy underwear for menJay Dee

Topics:Is it okay to take nude pictures and videos of each other?Limon by Minna discountAsexual wife?Wife loves me, but isn’t in love with meWife isn’t interested in improving our sex lifeWish I married a bigger buttSecretly feed her ejaculateHusband says my vagina stinks and tastes bad50-year-old wife refuses to have sexDo we need a counselor?…

Topics include: Threesome temptationsAversion to receiving manual and oral sexPenis sizeFalling asleep during sexy timeJay Dee

Topics:Women use sex to control men, so men should be allowed to masturbateAppreciating beauty vs lustingPlaylist for sexTenutoSqueamish about handjobsAnother question about masturbationHow do I get my wife to masturbate for me?Is oral sex okay?Are men polygamous by nature?Jay Dee

Topics include:Phone sexOral sex to completionForgiveness and trust after betrayalAre pictures and videos a problem?Increasing female libido naturallyWhat is our duty?Toxic wifeAbusive employerJay Dee

Topics include:Does my wife know what I'm doing to her?I want to share orgasms with my husbandWhat are your thoughts on BDSM?Is bondage a problem for me?Wife doesn't like direct clitoral stimulationHow do I hold my wife accountable?Jay Dee

In this episode El Fury and Sexy Corte discuss what they've learned about sex during their first decade of marriage.If this podcast is a blessing to you, please leave us a 5-star review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.Related links: How To Help Your Wife Orgasm: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/mental-techniques/how-to-help-your-wi…

Answering this question:Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn't enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How do I get him to be grateful for what I do instead of needing more? I always feel inadequate.…

My daughter's speech that the judges decided they couldn't let win because of the topic, but went on to districts despite them.Jay Dee

Topics include:Spouse falls asleep during romantic getawayHusband wants her to wear revealing clothesPublic sexAre we responsible for our dreams?How to encourage your spouse to be healthierJay Dee

Topics include:Where does the energy come from?Mutual masturbationSharing fantasies and machinesMasturbation due to struggles with orgasmingSpontaneous / Responsive desire quizWhy do married men masturbate?How do you meet other people?Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?Jay Dee

Topics include: Where are you?How to hide bruisesWhat role do I have in God changing my heart?Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husbandHow to recover from faking orgasms?Husband wants to be pursuedWhere do you get your garbage theology?Jay Dee

A post in response to this question:Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic.Jay Dee

Topics Include:Coming clean about faking orgasmsWanting wife to wear a diaperWet and messy / humiliation fetishIs oral sex a measure of love?Married and lonelyChastity playSex outdoorsPre-orgasmic wifeJay Dee

In this episode we discuss the acrostic Sexy Corte created while sexually aroused.If this podcast is a blessing to you, please leave us a 5-star review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.Creating Art While Sexually Aroused: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/marriage-advice/creating-art-sexually-aroused/Thumb and Finger Zoom Technique: …

A reader poses a question:There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The second person follows Biblical Courtship (or…

Topics include:CrossdressingCounseling not fixing her sex driveShould I keep fantasies to myself?Husband addicted to pornWife has no sex driveFaceTime sexSpouse's facial and body hairDoes Viagra work for women?How do I stop her from seeing me as submissive?No sex due to pregnancy complicationsWife struggles with overeatingHow do I stop masturbating…

A reader asked:If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our sex life isn't dry but we aren't…

Topics include:Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?Explaining romance and foreplayIs it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?Is my wife really having an orgasm?Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sexIs mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?Nipple orgasms…

In this episode we answer common questions from newlyweds and talk about sexual frequency.If this podcast is a blessing to you, please leave us a 5-star review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.Sexual frequency: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/tag/frequency/How To Talk With Your Spouse About Sex: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog…

Topics include:Husband who gets defensive about possible porn useDid I change my mind about anal sex?How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?Is mutual masturbation okay if you're separated due to work?Haven't been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismusFriend can't have sex with his wife because of prior porn useIs a panty …

We've got a lot of sex toys, and we've tried them all.If this podcast is a blessing to you, please leave us a 5-star review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.Sex Toys on the blog: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/category/toys/Vibrators: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/tag/vibrator/Intro to Shibari, Japanese Rope Bondage: https:…

Topics include:Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex lifeWife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectfulWife who engages in sex, but isn't sexualOxytocin and porn and masturbationWife wants husband to get a vasectomyClone-a-willy questionJay Dee

A reader asked:Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old.... any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research? Is there a certain "technique" we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?) dare I ask, has it affected your faith? We are Southern Baptist raised, and raising our kiddos Baptist/ non-denominatio…

Topics Include:Low Drive / Low T HusbandWife won't talk about sexNot attracted to my husbandWife against spicing up sexIs there a difference between having sex and making love?Jay Dee

What is orgasmic meditation and how do you do it? How can OM benefit your marriage and sex life?If this podcast is a blessing to you, please leave us a 5-star review on iTunes or wherever you listen to podcasts.Being Present in the Moment with Orgasmic Meditation: https://marriedchristiansex.com/blog/mental-techniques/present-moment-orgasmic-medita…

Today we’re going to answer a question about having sex with a well-endowed husband. This question came in a while ago, and since I hadn’t answered it before and I felt there was a lot of information to share, I thought I’d split it off into its own post. So, let’s talk about the struggles of having a larger-than-average-sized penis.…

Topics Include:Wet DreamsMoney and MarriageHandjobs and controlIs my dead husband still with me?Are dreams sinful?How do I take control of my marriage?Sex once a yearIs it wrong for a widow to have desires?Unsatisfied with little sexWife suddenly changed oral skillsBest position for first timeIs oral sex a sin?Husband has a lot more experienceMovie…

Topics include:Wife becoming less adventurousHow long before porn memories fade?What counts as premature ejaculation?Is getting a vasectomy a sin?Husband isn't acting like a believerIs it okay to talk about sex?Are we going too far?Sex frequency has gone downCrossdressing menRimmingSex once or twice per year since kids were bornConflict over anal p…

Hi Jay,Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious fo…