Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 2

Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

If you understand THIS ONE THING, it can radically improve your life. Don’t hang on to pain— it is in the past. Just Let Go. Here’s a story to illustrate that -

One day, there were two monks walking a path. They came to a stream where there was a noblewoman looking to cross, but with no way of doing so. The monks were not allowed to touch a woman, yet the older monk picked the woman up and carried her across the stream, put her down, and walked on. The younger monk, scandalized, was beside himself that the older monk had broken his vows. After a while, he finally asked, “Why did you touch that woman? You're going to get kicked out of the order!” The elder monk, who was wiser, more awake, and more enlightened, replied, “I put that woman down hours ago, why are you still carrying her?”

This story is not a Dr. Cheryl original, it’s a well-known Buddhist parable, but it serves to show us exactly what happens when we refuse to let go and live in the present.

Today, I’m sharing the second part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering in your everyday lives.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

Close your eyes and focus on a particular part of your body. What’s the direct experience you’re feeling there right now? (07:08)

Catastrophizing only gets us wrung out with cortisol and less equipped to handle the challenges that come in the uncertain future (12:06)

Trouble letting go is human. We’re trained to dwell and hang on to negative experiences (18:28)

Most of our suffering comes from how we expect things to happen (31:47)

Today’s LoveByte (41:17)

Q&A:

How can I stop myself from dwelling on past pain and suffering? Practice letting go and remember to always ground yourself in the current moment. Ask yourself: “What is the direct experience I’m feeling right now?”

I’m so anxious all the time, what can I do to help myself? The practice of letting go is very effective for minds obsessed with compulsive thinking. Practice meditation and simplify your practice down to two words: Let go.

How do I stop myself from constantly being let down by my friends and loved ones? We create pain and suffering for ourselves when we put too much stock into expectations, especially when we rely on others. Next time, take a step back and adjust your expectations before you allow yourself to be disappointed.

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