In this week’s episode, their partner is willing to top them but not be their Dominant. They also have conflicted feelings about their submission leading them to wonder if they’re really submissive at all.... The post Q&A: Am I Really Submissive? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Taking a couple of weeks off was very good for us. It allowed us to rest and chill, but we also reflected on the state of our power exchange. We talked about what we... The post Getting Our D/s Life Back in 2025 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A sassy switch has a partner who pushes the boundaries as a brat, and they’re not sure how to handle potential broken rules. Here’s the question: My boyfriend (53m) and I (38 transmasc /... The post Q&A: What Happens If You Can’t Agree That a Sub Broke a Rule? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

For the last podcast episode of the year, we’re looking back at the state of our power exchange for the year. The takeaway is that not a lot happened but we’ve learned a few... The post Looking Back at our D/s Relationship in 2024 appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a plus size kinkster wants to let it all hang out at the dungeon, but not if they’ll be the only plus size person there. Here’s the question: I really want to... The post Q&A: Does the Kink Community Welcome All Body Types? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re keeping it light and easy (and also extremely personal, apparently) this week by answering more non-kinky relationship questions. In this episode: Get free shipping on orders $35+ thru December 15 at the Kinkery!... The post Answering More Vanilla Relationship Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

A submissive has needs that don’t fit naturally with what their Dominant enjoys and wonders how to find the right balance for both of them. Here’s the question: My Dom and I have been... The post Q&A: How Do We Find the Balance Between Our Power Exchange Needs? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

The holidays are upon us (and they keep coming back every year) so let’s talk about how to get through some of the main parts of it that can impact your power exchange. In... The post Navigating the Holidays in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A Dominant provides the aftercare his submissive wants, but she’s always cranky the day after a scene. Here’s the question: My (41m/Dom) and my wife (42f/sub) have been married for four years and discovered... The post Q&A: Why is My Sub Irritable After a Scene? Is It Drop? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

Happy Thanksgiving! We responded (and ranted) to BDSM Reddit posts. In this episode: Black Friday sales The Kinkery – 25 percent off with code SPANKS24 Our Etsy shops – 25 percent off no code... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This Dominant knows not to come on too strong when getting to know submissives, but some of them call him “Sir” from the very beginning, and he’s not sure if it’s a problem or... The post Q&A: Is It OK for Subs to Call Me Sir When We Meet? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We asked Instagram to ask us anything and then opened up questions to the YouTube live chat during the stream. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale through the end... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster who’s been dealing with burnout, depression, and other personal stuff wonders how and when to bring up their mental health to a new partner. Here’s the question: My question is – as... The post Q&A: How Do I Talk About My Mental Health? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Assertive gets conflated with bratting, demanding, and/or unsubmissive-like behavior. And we fundamentally disagree, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: All of our Etsy shops are on sale thru the rest of the... The post Assertive Submissives appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A newish kinkster live in an area with a local kink community they’re not comfortable being part of and driving to another area isn’t an option. Here’s the question: What do I do when... The post Q&A: How Do I Handle Having a Bad Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We didn’t know where this would go before we started other than saying, “Yes, Doms need to communicate effectively, too.” (Obviously.) JB shares his experiences as a Dom who has struggled to communicate in... The post Dominants and Communication appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, a submissive wants to bring D/s out of the bedroom, but their Dom doesn’t seem motivated to try. Here’s the question: My husband (33m) and I (34f) have been together... The post Q&A: How Can I Motivate My Dom to Bring D/s Out of the Bedroom? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

You’ve probably heard of new relationship energy (NRE) but we’re more interested in the idea of old relationship energy. So let’s talk about it. In this episode We’re celebrating the Kinkery’s 4th anniversary with... The post Old Relationship Energy in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re back and coming in hot with a BDSM Reddit response/reaction episode! In this episode: This week’s episode is sponsored by Flure, a welcome, inclusive, and kink-friendly dating app. There’s no episode next Monday.... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

In this week’s episode, a kinky couple has gone through a few shifts in their relationship and now things are a little off. Can they go back to normal? Here’s the question: My sub... The post Q&A: Can We Go Back to Normal? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we talk about the thing that anyone who’s ever had a D/s relationship knows…life will definitely interfere with your power exchange. In this episode, we talk about some of the most common... The post When Life Interferes with Your Power Exchange | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

A submissive isn’t having a good time during scenes with their nervous Domme — and is getting more and more frustrated. Here’s the question: Hello! So I’m in a relationship with a woman who... The post Q&A: How Do I Enjoy Scenes with a Nervous Domme? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve been getting the same type of question recently…Where do I find a Dom? How do I find a submissive? So let’s talk about it this week. In this episode: Thanks to Flure for... The post Where to Find a Dominant or Submissive Partner | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster wants to take things further with their partner – who isn’t interested in being a submissive. Here’s the question: My wife and I have been married for almost 20 years. We have... The post Q&A: Is It Okay to Enjoy Our Power Dynamic Without Labeling It? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

You’ve figured out you’re kinky, met a partner (or talked to your current partner), and negotiated a power exchange. Yay! And also…there are a few challenges to be aware of as you navigate your... The post What to Watch Out for in New D/s Relationships | Back to Basics Series appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week, we’re answering a question from a submissive who wants to get back to a more primal, CNC, sadomasochistic way of playing with their partner but old memories from another relationship are holding... The post Q&A: How Do I Move Past Bad Memories to Enjoy Old Kinks? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

In the next episode of our Back to Basics series, we’re discussing consent in D/s relationships. In this episode: Get the Kink Bundle while it’s available! Check out the Loving BDSM Etsy shop. This... The post Consent in D/s Relationships | Back to Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a kinkster wants to get back into their local community but wants to avoid someone who seems to be an unsafe kinkster. Note: Content warning for brief mention of suicide, abusive behavior,... The post Q&A: Can I Avoid an Active Member in My Local Community? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re starting a new “back to basics” series for power exchange. The topics may be things we’ve talked about in the past, but with 400+ episodes, it’s probably been a while since we talked... The post Starting a New D/s Relationship | Back to Basics appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, a Daddy Dom worries that they aren’t being a good Dom because they promise fuckery at the end of the day and then change their mind. Here’s the question: Am I unreliable... The post Q&A: Am I an Unreliable Dominant? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We asked for your questions over at that handle we hate on Instagram, and you delivered! In this episode: The Kinkery is having a sale through Labor Day! JB’s vanilla Etsy shop “sponsored” us,... The post Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re a bit late to our own party, but we’re celebrating our 9th podcast anniversary! We’re sharing things we’ve learned, discovered, and figured out about ourselves and our power exchange relationship after nine years... The post Things We’ve Learned About Power Exchange in Nine Years of Podcasting appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

This week, a kinkster is figuring out their switchy self but isn’t sure how to navigate wanting different things in different ways than their partner. Here’s the question: My husband and I have been... The post Q&A: Can We Be Switches in Different Ways and Still Have a Good D/s Relationship? appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

With great power comes great responsibility…or something like that. The weight of the responsibility a Dom carries can sometimes feel like pressure, so let’s talk about it. But it’s worth noting that the power... The post The Pressures and Privileges of Dominance appeared first on Loving BDSM.

After life got in the way, this kinky couple is ready to get back to their fuckery – including free use – but the Dominant partner isn’t initiating, even after plenty of communication. Here’s... The post Q&A: How Can My Dom Become Comfortable Initiating Free Use? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Anyone and everyone can experience imposter syndrome. While it’s most common in professional settings, it’s definitely possible in personal situations – like your kink life. In this episode: The Kinkery exists! What is imposter... The post Imposter Syndrome in Power Exchange and Kink appeared first on Loving BDSM.…

We’re willing to bet that this question comes up more than some Dominants are willing to admit. Here’s the full question: What should you do if you’re a dom who doesn’t want to take... The post Q&A: What If a Dom Doesn’t Always Want to Lead? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we react/respond to BDSM questions shared on the kinky side of Reddit. In this episode: Oh yeah, Kayla has a vanilla Etsy shop that’s book-themed. If you’re into that kind of thing.... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A kinkster wants to know when the right time is to take things from dating apps or Fetlife to in person. Here’s the question: How do I know when to move from a dating... The post Q&A: When is the Right Time to Meet in Real Life? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

This week, we’re letting Therapy Jeff tell us what to talk about – by answering several “cute and spicy” relationship questions he posted about on Instagram (and probably TikTok too). In this episode: There’s... The post Answering Cute and Spicy Questions appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive has gone through a lot with their Dominant partner with consent violations, a broken D/s agreement, and just being made to feel awful. And they want to know if it’s possible to... The post Q&A: How Do I Trust My Dom Again? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A moment when Kayla admitted wrongdoing has us thinking about the concept of “radical honesty” which potentially has a deeper meaning for kinksters in general. In this episode Register for the free and online... The post Radical Honesty in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive who was once the Dominant in their power exchange wants to add their Dom energy back to the dynamic but isn’t sure how to talk to their partner about it. Here’s the... The post Q&A: How Do I Tell My Partner I Want to Switch? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

External (extrinsic) motivation is about doing something because of outside expectations – your partner set a task, you were asked to do something, etc. It might be something you know needs to be done,... The post Needing External Motivation in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’ve experienced “task creep” – the act of taking on tasks/routines that weren’t specifically negotiated. Thankfully for us, we figured it out quickly and worked it out in a quick conversation. But like job... The post Task Creep in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We don’t know how we’ve made it to 400 full-length episodes, either, but here we are! We didn’t get a lot of questions for this one, so we just sort of chatted until we... The post Celebrating 400 Episodes with Kinky Q&A appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We’re one week away from our 400th episode, so we’re starting the celebration early with a BDSM Reddit response episode! In this episode: Ask your questions for our Monday episodes. We’re celebrating 10,000 subscribers... The post BDSM Reddit Response appeared first on Loving BDSM.

Most kinksters aren’t communicating too much, but some of us (like Kayla) could be, so let’s talk about it. In this episode: We need your questions for our Monday episodes. The most common issue... The post Over Communication in Power Exchange appeared first on Loving BDSM.

A submissive has a recurring issue about aftercare with their Dominant partner and wants to know: are they the problem or is it me? Here’s the question: I’ve been dating a dom for about... The post Q&A: Is My Dom the Problem or Am I? appeared first on Loving BDSM.

We joke about Kayla’s control issues, but they’re definitely a thing we both have to navigate in our power exchange. In this episode: We joke about Kayla’s control issues all the time. The stereotype... The post Submission With Control Issues appeared first on Loving BDSM.