199. The Fear of Success in Coaching

Coaches on a Mission

So this episode is so different from how we normally roll but it's such an illuminating coaching conversation, I can't wait for you to hear it. My guest today came to our recording pretty convinced that she's just afraid of success. But soon we agreed that it's much more accurate to say she's nervous about the unknown.

Lyndsey Wilcken empowers moms to defy diet culture so they can finally find the strength, vitality and confidence they've been looking for from a holistic lens.

And despite so much growth and discovery in her business over the last several months, right now, Lyndsey's feeling stuck. She's a single mom with teenagers at home who require support. Plus she's got her business to think about. Needless to say, Lyndsey's telling herself what a lot of us say:

I should be further along than I am right now.
Maybe I'm just not cut out for this.
Where will I find all the time and energy to do all the things I need to do?

If you relate, you'll love this episode because Lyndsey and I made a few crucial discoveries:

1. First, we reframed the myth of The Fear of Success so she could release any blame or shame about her progress.< /br> 2. Then, we got real about how long it actually takes to get your business off the ground so she could give herself way more credit.< /br> 3. Finally, we replaced the idea that courage will help her reach her goals with the truth that compassion is what she needs right now.

I loved every moment of this conversation because no matter what you've achieved up until now, we all can use a larger dose of self compassion to take us where we want to go.

Key Takeaways:

• Define Your Niche
• Embrace Self-Compassion
• Use curiosity as a Superpower
• Do Weekly Reflections
• Model Success

Timestamps & Key Topics
[00:00] Introduction
[03:05] Lyndsey's journey and her experience with the Hive.
[04:00] Lyndsey's initial hesitation and fear of taking action.
[05:48] Lyndsey's desire to feel confident, grounded, centered, and reminded of the impact she can make.
[09:56] Lyndsey discusses her competing intentions between parenting and building her business.
[14:23] Dallas shares insights on the stages of a coaching business.
[18:10] Lyndsey's realization of her true calling and the evolution of her coaching niche.
[22:00] Dallas suggests a weekly reflection practice for Lyndsey to gain fresh perspectives on her journey.
[25:20] Lyndsey and Dallas discuss the concept of courage and how it relates to business.
[29:10] Dallas introduces the idea of replacing courage with self-compassion.
[32:00] Dallas encourages Lyndsey to forecast her business journey with a focus on self-compassion.
[34:52] Lyndsey plans to reflect on her journey and embrace self-compassion.
[36:14] Dallas emphasizes the power of curiosity as a superpower.

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