6. Navigating Low Libido and the Journey through a Sexless Marriage

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Summary
The conversation explores the experience of libido in long term relationships. We discuss Kimmy's experience living in a sexless marriage and how different libido's can have shame and challenges that can arise from it. Giarne and Kimmy talk about societal expectations and the role of imagination in maintaining desire. The importance of being connected in the body and the need for emotional and physical connection in relationships are highlighted. We delve into coping mechanisms, anger, and shame, as well as the different needs we all may have in relationships. We wrap up with a focus on self-discovery and making difficult decisions.
In this conversation, Kimmy and Giarne discuss the importance of recognizing needs as essential rather than mere wants;. Kimmy shares her journey of self-discovery and finding fulfilment, and the potential challenges of having a partner who cannot meet certain needs.

Takeaways

• Living in a sexless marriage can lead to feelings of shame and a sense of failure, but libido needs are different for different people.
• Imagination can play a significant role in maintaining desire and connection in a relationship.
• Being connected in the body is crucial for positive sexual experiences.
• Different individuals have different needs in relationships, and it is important to communicate and understand these needs.
• Coping with a sexless marriage can involve finding alternative ways to meet emotional and physical needs. Recognize and prioritize your needs as essential rather than mere wants.
• Self-discovery and fulfilling personal needs can lead to a sense of calmness, joy, and fulfilment.
• Having a partner who cannot meet certain needs can be challenging, but open communication and understanding are key.
• Maintaining a healthy relationship requires conscious effort and the willingness to change dynamics to meet everyone's needs.
• Harmonious co-parenting is possible with open communication and a focus on meeting the needs of all family members.