268: How Highly Sensitive, High Achievers Can Advocate for More with Melody Wilding

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Listen up: There’s going to be dollar signs flying at you after this episode.
Okay, I might be exaggerating, but listening to today’s guest WILL change how you show up in crucial conversations in the workplace–and what opportunities those conversations open up for you.
Melody Wilding is an award-winning executive coach, human behavior professor, and the author of Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, and its follow up, Managing Up: How to Get What You Need From the People in Charge, coming out in March 2025.
As a therapist, coach, and emotions researcher, Melody weaves evidence-based neuroscience and psychology with professional development. She joined me on Love, your Money® to share her expertise as it relates to money conversations, negotiating with higher ups, and advocating for yourself financially in a professional setting.
If you’re what Melody calls a Sensitive Striver–a highly sensitive person who’s also high achieving–OR you’ve ever felt like your people-pleasing ways are holding you back in the workplace or your personal life, this is a conversation you don’t want to miss. 👇
Here’s what you’ll learn in this week’s episode of Love, your Money:

• 02:08 Melody’s term Sensitive Striver–what it is, how Melody started working with highly sensitive achievers, and how it relates to her latest book
• 03:38 The difference between sensitivity and empathy, how they show up in professional settings, and the role of sensitivity in an evolutionary setting
• 06:14 The struggles sensitive people may come up against when it comes to pursuing financial freedom and asking for what they need
• 08:25 When Imposter Syndrome shows up, and how it impacts sensitive people–especially when it comes to financial goals and accomplishments
• 13:53 Increasing your visibility, earning what you want, and the cost of flying under the radar
• 16:19 Problem, Action, Solution: Melody’s conversational framework to help you advocate for yourself, and share your accomplishments in effective and memorable ways
• 20:11 The quitting conversation: What to do when you feel stuck in your career, the value of building relationships instead of burning bridges, and navigating exit interviews with grace
• 24:55 How sensitive people can think about timing and self-advocacy when asking for raises or promotions, and getting teammates aligned with your desire for advancement

Show Notes
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