Personal Responsibility! What's That?

Romancipation

S3 Episode 4: Personal Responsibility? What’s That?

Episode Summary

Personal responsibility sets you free in more ways than one. It’s a “get out of jail free” card when you mess up in your romantic relationship. When your partner feels like you have owned what you did or said, it allows for healing and growth to take place. It’s empowering because taking personal responsibility for decisions and behaviors makes your partner feel respected and heard even when they don’t agree with you.
Personal responsibility builds an environment of trust in the relationship. When two partners are accountable to one another it allows for acceptance between two people in the partnership. Apologies are authentic and sincere.
Moreover, people who take personal responsibility are confident in their beliefs and recognize the impact they have on another person. Instead of finger-pointing and blaming others, a person who “owns their shit” does not need to justify or rationalize their perspective. They recognize that they can only control their own choices.
At the end of each episode, Marlee and Lis vent about commonly experienced issues in romantic relationships. In this episode, the ladies discuss when a partner reveals embarrassing or intimate details about your relationship.

Show Notes

Why is personal responsibility so important in a relationship? It gets a bad reputation, when in reality, it is very empowering. When you take personal responsibility, you never need to give a fake or inauthentic apology. Instead, taking responsibility allows you to stop an argument in its tracks.
When you really own your behavior, no one can use it against you. It’s a very powerful tool. If you’re used to blaming and finger-pointing, it’s not easy to start being accountable and responsible for what you do. But once you do, it really is a sign of confidence.
Personal responsibility doesn’t mean taking the blame for something you didn’t do. That said, it is important to recognize when something you’ve said or done has had a negative impact on your partner. Admitting where you went wrong and owning it facilitates trust between you and your partner.
When you take responsibility for yourself, you realize that another individual’s personality responsibility is their own journey. You can’t force someone else into it. If they’re not willing to grow in the same way, it’s your choice to stay or leave. In this way, learning to own what you need to own is ultimately quite freeing.
In this episode, the vent session topic is: When your partner reveals an embarrassing or intimate detail of your relationship. What happens behind closed bedroom doors should stay behind those doors—especially if you haven’t been given consent to share. Some matters are private and should be handled between you and your partner. It comes across like a power play and destroys intimacy between partners.
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