The Dance Of Validation & Autonomy In Your Relationship

The Steph & Craig Show

Are you getting your needs met in your relationship? Do you even know what to ask for?

On today’s episode, Steph & Craig welcome Tony Overbay to the podcast. Tony is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and host of the Virtual Couch Podcast and Waking up to Narcissism Podcast.

This episode is overflowing with information regarding narcissism, emotional immaturity, differentiation, codependency, and so much more.

Tony discusses the difference between emotional immaturity and narcissism, arguing that emotional immaturity is a more practical label that doesn’t carry the same heavy connotations, allowing for personal growth.

He introduces the concept of differentiation, which involves maintaining a sense of self while being connected to others.

Tony also shares his four pillars of a connected conversation, which include:

- Giving the benefit of the doubt

- Avoiding telling someone they’re wrong

- Seeking to understand before being understood

- Staying present

Get ready for insights into emotional maturity, differentiation, and the path to healthier relationships!

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Disclaimer:

We’re just sharing our journey with you. We’re not licensed therapists, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Cool? Good deal. We’ll see you soon.

In this episode:

00:00 Differentiating Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism

10:14 The Power of Differentiation

23:04 The Four Pillars of a Connected Conversation

30:32 The Importance of Self-Care and Self-Validation

34:41 The Dance of Validation and Autonomy

36:00 Embracing Uncertainty and Discomfort for Growth

38:22 Self-Soothing and Managing Anxiety in Relationships

43:36 Navigating Codependency and Emotional Maturity

51:37 Asking for What We Need in Relationships

01:09:52 Challenges of Validation in a Relationship

01:11:20 Journey of Differentiation and Personal Growth

01:14:14 The Need for External Validation

01:17:30 Creating a Shared Experience

01:30:16 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

01:41:40 Living According to Personal Values

Connect with Tony:

Tony’s Website- https://www.tonyoverbay.com/

Follow Tony on YouTube- https://www.youtube.com/@TheVirtualCouchPodcast

Listen to Tony’s Podcasts-https://www.tonyoverbay.com/category/podcast/

Follow Tony on TikTok- https://www.tiktok.com/@virtualcouch

Tony on Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/virtualcouch/

Check out Tony on Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft/

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