31. How Climate, Culture, and Location Shape the Way We Love with Giancarlo Bessa

We Don't Deserve Men

In this episode of 'We Don't Deserve Men,' the hosts engage in an insightful conversation with multicultural traveler Giancarlo Bessa about how culture and climate influence relationships. Giancarlo shares his extensive experiences living in various countries including Brazil, Mexico, the United States, the UK, Southeast Asia, and the Netherlands. They discuss the challenges of adapting to new cultures, dealing with reverse culture shock, and navigating the complexities of building community and relationships. The episode also explores how factors like weather can impact social dynamics and even masculinity, providing a unique perspective on how location shapes love, connection, and identity. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 01:39 Meet Giancarlo Bessa: A Multicultural Journey 04:28 Language and Cultural Adaptation 07:21 Host's Travel and Living Experiences 14:40 Cultural Differences in Relationships 23:38 Navigating Social Dynamics in Different Cultures 31:27 Planning and Spontaneity: A Cultural Contrast 44:31 Masculine vs. Feminine Cultures: A Theory 48:05 Weather and Cultural Differences 49:54 Abundance and Dating in Mexico City 51:03 Social Dynamics in the Netherlands 54:33 Masculinity and Relationship Polarity 01:01:20 Community and Individualism 01:03:53 Reflections on Moving and Settling Down 01:07:03 Challenges and Rewards of Building Friendships 01:09:08 Polyamory and Subcultures 01:11:43 Comparing Relationship Dynamics Across Cultures 01:18:27 Personal Reflections and Future Plans 01:27:51 Final Thoughts and Closing Questions