#262 Improve Communication with Your Spouse & Process Emotions to Build an Extraordinary Life & Marriage

The EXTRAORDINARY Family Life Podcast

This week's awesome questions come from wives asking,

"What do you do when your spouse tells you that you need to get a backbone and manage your own emotions when you tell him that the demeaning way he looks at you is hurtful during a disagreement?

He is only trying to give me a firm "no" in response to something I wanted to discuss, but the way he looked at me was cold and intense...it's so hard to describe.

So I was trying to communicate to him that he can still disagree but do it in a pleasant, loving manner. I know he's super defensive because of feeling like he's admitted in the past to owning up to his stuff, but it almost sounds like he thinks now he shouldn't have to do it anymore because he's done it so much.

I bought 'The Empowered Wife' book which you recommend and want to read it, but I'm trying to finish up some other books first, and I hope that book has some answers... But do you guys have any thoughts for me??

My first line of defense is to shut off and not discuss the situation cause he just goes around in circles and he thinks I need to change and I think he needs to just be aware that his nonverbal language is real, but he literally thinks he did nothing wrong.

I know I can change the way I react and think about it, but those cold looks don't encourage more open discussion for me. Maybe I just let it go and hope that part of our relationship changes over time.

Maybe it has to do with his current stress levels and on and on. Honestly, I thought those kinds of stares were behind us so I guess they can still resurface during times of stress or if he's tired etc."

We've all been there at some point! And this excellent topic is so important for spouses to work through if you want to grow closer and build a relationship that can build the life of your dreams.

In this episode, we will give you very specific strategies for processing emotions, giving feedback, encouraging your spouse, and overall just COMMUNICATING better as you learn the tools necessary to create an extraordinary marriage -- which is the hub and center of the spokes in your extraordinary life.

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