66. How to boost your self-esteem

PLAYING-IT-SAFE

Have you ever been caught in a spiral of self-criticism? When was the last time your inner critic took over your day?

We all have stories we’ve created about ourselves - some of them positive and some of them negative. If you suffer from low self-esteem, your story may include these types of narratives: “I’m a failure,” “I’ll never be able to do that,” or “if only I were smarter or more attractive, I could be happy.”

Dealing effectively with your inner critic doesn't happen overnight, but if you learn compassionate, evidence-based and actionable skills to handle all those stories, to relate to them skillfully, you can learn to accept yourself as you are and not as who you wish to be.

Key Takeaways

In this conversation, Dr. Joe Oliver, Ph.D. and I discussed:

• What is self-esteem
• How to handle self-criticism
• Defusion: thanking your mind
• How to notice when you’re entangled with your mind
• How to notice and catch your playing-it-safe moves
• The story behind his book
• Dealing with the monsters of the negative stories with dignity and respect

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