Ep. 273 - The Doctor Is In Series - Secure or Insecure - What Is Your Attachment Style?

The Social-Engineer Podcast

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Attachment Styles. They will talk about the 4 different types, how they are caused and how to grow from an insecure to a secure style. [Sept 2, 2024]

00:00 - Intro

00:16 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:49 - Intro Links

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03:49 - The Topic of the Day: Attachment Styles

05:01 - The Types

05:44 - Secure Attachment

07:32 - Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

09:27 - Primary and Secondary Influences

14:40 - Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

17:42 - Fearful Avoidant Attachment

20:01 - One at a Time

21:09 - Oxytocin Influence

26:30 - The Path Forward

29:51 - See It to Believe It

34:21 - Emotional Well-Being

- Work in Progress - Dr. Abbie Maroño

36:47 - Second Date Sharing

39:19 - Swipe Right

41:15 - Next Month: Judd Shaw

42:12 - Wrap Up & Outro

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