Step 9 - Healing: Whatever that May Look Like w/ Heather B

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In this episode of the 'Pathway to Recovery' podcast, host Justin B. is joined by Heather B., who shares her heartfelt experiences in the rooms of SAL 12-step recovery. Together, they delve into Heather's journey through Step Nine of the recovery program. Heather recounts her background, from discovering her husband's addiction to her transformative process in understanding her limitations and achieving personal growth. She offers a candid look at the healing power of making amends, the challenges she faced, and the profound peace she found through God's guidance. Heather’s story underscores the essential nature of forgiveness, accountability, and continuous self-improvement in the recovery journey, providing both newcomers and long-time participants with invaluable insights and encouragement.

00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast

00:36 Heather's Journey into SAL 12 Step

02:18 Discovering the Reality of Addiction

03:32 The Shift in Focus: From Fixing Others to Self-Recovery

07:18 The Importance of a Sponsor

10:32 Reading and Understanding the 12 Steps

11:43 Heather's Experience with Step Nine

18:54 Challenges and Lessons in Making Amends

23:55 Miraculous Outcomes in Step Nine

28:19 A Nervous Encounter

29:20 Unexpected Transformation

30:13 Emotional Release

30:26 The Power of Amends

31:10 Making Amends with Myself

31:27 The Role of Counseling

32:36 Forgiving the Past

36:23 Living Amends

39:29 Healing Through Forgiveness

45:12 The Individuality of Step Nine

49:19 Final Thoughts and Experience, Strength, and Hope

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Step 9 - Healing: Whatever that May Look Like w/ Heather B

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00:00 Introduction to the Pathway to Recovery Podcast

00:36 Heather's Journey into SAL 12 Step

02:18 Discovering the Reality of Addiction

03:32 The Shift in Focus: From Fixing Others to Self-Recovery

07:18 The Importance of a Sponsor

10:32 Reading and Understanding the 12 Steps

11:43 Heather's Experience with Step Nine

18:54 Challenges and Lessons in Making Amends

23:55 Miraculous Outcomes in Step Nine

28:19 A Nervous Encounter

29:20 Unexpected Transformation

30:13 Emotional Release

30:26 The Power of Amends

31:10 Making Amends with Myself

31:27 The Role of Counseling

32:36 Forgiving the Past

36:23 Living Amends

39:29 Healing Through Forgiveness

45:12 The Individuality of Step Nine

49:19 Final Thoughts and Experience, Strength, and Hope

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