Aisha's Special Scar VBA2C After "Failure to Progress" + Uterine Dehiscence

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Aisha’s episode is full of wisdom and inspiration! With her first two births, Aisha worked so hard to deliver vaginally, but ultimately had two undesired Cesareans. She was told in the operating room that she had uterine dehiscence, was given a special scar, and should never try to deliver vaginally.

But her intuition was telling her a different story. She dove into research. She found a community and listened to podcasts like The VBAC Link. She knew a VBA2C was possible, and she knew she had to try.

Aisha’s VBA2C journey involved interacting with supportive and very unsupportive providers, hiring a fantastic doula, being proactive with labor comfort measures, planning for the unexpected, staying firm in her desires, asynclitic positioning, and pushing her baby boy out in just 45 minutes with a nuchal hand!

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Meagan: Hello, Women of Strength. It’s The VBAC Link, and we have a VBA2C story coming your way. Have you ever wondered what VBA2C means? If you haven’t noticed, in the VBAC world, there are a lot of acronyms. VBA2C is one of them. That means vaginal birth after two Cesareans, meaning that you have had two Cesareans and want to go for a vaginal birth.

Big question, what are the chances of having a vaginal birth after two Cesareans? Is it possible? The answer is simply, yes. It is totally possible. Myself and Aisha are living proof today that it is possible. In fact, your chances of a successful VBA2C are similar to those of just a VBAC with one Cesarean.

ACOG recommends that VBA2C is a safe option, so today, I want to quickly go over a little bit more instead of a review about some education on vaginal birth after two Cesareans and share a little bit more of our blog.

Like I said, ACOG recommends that vaginal birth after two Cesareans is actually a safe option. They say, “It is reasonable to consider women with two previous low transverse Cesarean deliveries to be candidates for TOLAC.” Now, again, there’s another one of those acronyms. TOLAC- trial of labor after a Cesarean. I know that is triggering for some. It is pretty much just the medical term of saying that you are having a trial of labor after a Cesarean, so try not to let it impact you too much.

But, “for TOLAC and to counsel them based off of the combination of other factors that affect their probability of achieving a VBAC.” There are lots of things that people might go look through to see if you are eligible for a VBAC after two Cesareans.

Now, I’m sure you have probably heard this before, but proven pelvis. If you haven’t had a proven pelvis, meaning that your baby has come out vaginally before you’ve had a vaginal birth or a Cesarean– now when I say this, sometimes we have a vaginal birth, then we will have two Cesareans, and someone wants to go for a VBAC again, so they would be considered a proven pelvis or cervix to a medical staff.

But if you haven’t had a “proven pelvis”, I hope you guys can imagine my air quotes right now, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be considered as someone who should have a VBAC. It says in our blog, “More important to note, there is no mention of a requirement to have had that previous vaginal delivery.” I wanted to point out that it really is not a necessary thing. I hadn’t had a vaginal birth before. My cervix also hadn’t made it to 10 centimeters before, so just know that it is still possible.

Quickly, there are things that you can do to reduce uterine rupture, and there are also things you can do to increase your chances of VBAC. Again, it’s going to be in our blog. I’m going to send you over there after the episode so you can go and read more about it, but some of the things that you can do to minimize the risk of uterine rupture is staying away from induction.

Now, can VBAC be induced? Yes, they can. Yes, yes, yes, yes, you can, so I don’t want you to totally freak out right now. But, staying away from induction for VBAC is better than going to get induced. It does increase our chance of uterine rupture, and it does increase our chances of other things like interventions that are unnecessary.

Unless it’s absolutely necessary or totally desired, try to stay away from induction. Avoid augmentation of labor so things like Pitocin and other drugs to cause the uterus to contract more than it naturally would.

Okay, let’s see. Avoid providers who aggressively intervene or want to manage your labor or come at you with fearmongering tactics. You guys are going to hear some of that here, and honestly, I think it’s a common thing with these stories. We are getting a lot of fearmongering here. Providers, if you are listening, knock it off. Goodness gracious, we do not need to add fear to something that has been looming over us because VBAC has such a bad rap in the world, and it’s so scary.

Again, air quotes, guys. Just stop with the fearmongering.

Avoid providers who are going to build you up with things– I should say tear you down, but fill you up with things like, “Your baby is looking too big. I don’t know. We should probably induce. I don’t know if your baby is going to be able to come out because you are really small, and that baby is looking really big. Oh my gosh, you have to have an epidural. Oh my gosh, you have to have your baby by 39 weeks.” There are so many things. It’s annoying.

Okay, going back to avoiding rupture. Avoid or delay things like getting an epidural until at least the end if possible because we do know that sometimes when we get an epidural early in labor, it can bring things like interventions, and we are getting Pitocin that is too high and other things like that.

There are so many other things here, you guys. I’m going to make sure that the link is in the show notes. I don’t want to take too much of our time, so we can make sure that Aisha can share her beautiful VBAC after two Cesarean stories and all that she had done to lead up to this experience. You guys, it’s a good one. Something that is very different about this episode is that she actually had a dehiscence with her second which in a lot of the studies and literature for rupture, a dehiscence is often confused or combined with uterine rupture.

I really love that this is a different type of story here, so gear up and enjoy.

All right, Aisha. Thank you again so much for being here. As we were talking about earlier, VBAC after two Cesareans is so highly requested in our community. So without further ado, I want to turn the time over to you.

Aisha: Thank you so much for having me. This is surreal. I feel like this pushed me in some ways. It was a goal of mine. I’m like, “If I make it and do my VBAC after two Cesareans, I’m going to send my story to The VBAC Link.” Yeah. I’ve listened to you guys. It’s been literally almost four years listening to you guys all of the time trying to visualize my birth after hearing other people’s stories. It’s such a blessing, and I’m honored to be here to be honest.

Meagan: Well, thank you so much.

Aisha: Of course. Yeah. I mean, if we start from the beginning with my whole birthing journey, I got pregnant in 2018. I really wanted to try out the whole natural route, so I went with a midwife here in Canada. It’s covered by the government so whether you go to a midwife or OB/GYN, it’s honestly the same thing. It depends on what type of care you want to have.

I chose to go with the midwife, and I chose to give birth at a birthing center for my firstborn.

Labor started. I never ended up giving birth naturally obviously. I ended up having a 60-hour labor. Yeah. After 60 hours, they declared me failure to progress, and I think my cervix was a bit swollen at that point. The baby had made the meconium in my tummy.

Meagan: Oh, yeah. Stressing out is common. Babies poop sometimes, and it doesn’t always mean an emergency or anything like that, but when it’s happening and other things are happening–

Aisha: Exactly. I think I started having a fever and other things like that. At that point, they came to see me. They were like, “Before things turn into an emergency, let’s go and have a simple C-section.” I felt very defeated. I worked very hard for a natural birth. I did 40 of those 60 hours all-natural, but after seeing I wasn’t progressing– when I was with my midwife, I was 2 centimeters after 40 hours, and at that point, I requested to be transferred to the hospital to get an epidural.

When I got the epidural, it worked a little bit on half of my body, but I was having back labor. My baby was posterior, so it did not do much for those pains there. I can say in the moment, I was quite relieved to have the C-section, so everything could be over, but I know afterward, I know womanhood is not defined by how you birth your baby, but I think at that point because that’s what I envisioned, I never envisioned a C-section ever in my life, and it affected me. It affected my self-esteem a little bit.

Right after that, me being me, I’m such a planner and such a researcher. I researched to see if it’s possible to have a vaginal birth after a Cesarean, and I discovered the whole VBAC world. I signed up in all of the Facebook groups that I could find about VBACs all around the world. I was reading stories. I discovered The VBAC Link at that point. I started listening to the podcast.

I also requested, through my midwife, my notes to see what happened.

Meagan: Your op reports. Yes.

Aisha: I’m like, “Okay. I need to know why I had a Cesarean, why a Cesarean was made, etc.” I checked. I sat down with my midwife at six weeks postpartum. Honestly, it wasn’t anything really. They just said it was failure to progress. I had dilated to a 7, and that was that. She was like, “Okay. You can come back when you get pregnant again. You need to wait 2 years or 18 months before you get pregnant again.”

Meagan: Mhmm. That’s very common.

Aisha: That’s what I did. I got pregnant when my firstborn, I think, was 15 months. I gave birth exactly two years later almost to the dot. That labor started. Everything was going great. I remember for that pregnancy, I tried to always sit leaning forward, doing all of those exercises because my baby was posterior. I wanted a good posture. I did all of the things. It was in winter here, and in winter, Canada is not the best. I wasn’t walking as much and it was COVID too. It was the COVID lockdown.

With my first, I was going to the mall a lot, but during the lockdown in 2021, all of the malls were closed. I wasn’t going outside much, but I was doing rounds in my house going up and down the stairs and stuff like that.

When labor started, I really tried to focus. I think I was doula-ing myself. I never got a doula, but I was doula-ing with all of my research what I knew to do. At some point, I felt like it was time to go to the midwife. I was going there. They checked me. I was at 2 centimeters again.

After laboring for 15 hours, then I was a bit defeated. I was like, “No, the same story is going to happen twice.” I continued laboring there. At some point, the contractions were back-to-back with no breaks. At that point, I was like, “Let me be a smart girl and get the epidural again.” She checked me. I was at 3 centimeters. I wasn’t progressing fast enough for me. I think I was just in too much pain. I wasn’t getting any breaks.

I went to the hospital. I think the car ride there did something because it was a 20-minute car ride from the birthing center to the hospital. I was 7 centimeters.

Meagan: Whoa. You went from a 3 to a 7 in 20 minutes?

Aisha: In 20 minutes. Then I was like, “Okay, it’s happening.” I got there. My midwife had already called the hospital and sent my papers. The anesthesiologist was waiting for me. I got the epidural within 5 minutes. They checked me. I was at a 9. Yeah, it went really fast. I was like, “I’m getting this VBAC.” Everybody was excited. I was giggling and laughing. My midwife came in. We were waiting for the last little bit.

They checked me. I was 9.5, but baby was stationed pretty high. They were like, “Okay, let’s try to bring baby down.” They made me change positions, but as they were doing that, the baby’s heart rate dropped. It wasn’t picking back up. At that point, it turned into an emergency C-section. The doctor looked at me. She was like, “Your baby is in distress. We don’t know why. Nothing is going on. Nothing is changing. We are bringing you to the OR and get baby out. We don’t have a choice.”

I was so sad. I was at 9.5. I was almost there, but it did not happen. When I was in the operating room, the doctor screamed to me, “Aisha, never do this again.” I’m like, “Why?” She never gave me any more explanation, so me being me, when I was done giving birth, I requested the notes again.

Meagan: Hey, listen. This is what I would suggest for anybody and everybody who has had a C-section. Go get your notes. Go get your notes.

Aisha: They give so much insight because nobody knows unless this is the only thing that remains with you. You don’t have the people to talk to. I saw the notes. I saw that my C-section scar had started to open. I think they called it a dehiscence.

Meagan: Dehiscence? It was past a window. It wasn’t just stretched. It actually had dehissed.

Aisha: Yes. My midwife was like, “Probably that’s the reason why she told you to never do this again and not to go for a VBAC again because the uterus had started to open.”

Because it had started to open, when she cut me up, it gave me a J-scar so my scar–

Meagan: You have a special scar too.

Aisha: I have a special scar too. At that point, I’m like, “Okay.” My midwife told me, “If you have a third baby, unfortunately here, we can only follow a VBAC after one Cesarean. We cannot follow a VBAC after two C-sections so you will have to go the OB/GYN route.”

Then I got scared because I’m like, “My God, I’m going to have to go to the medical professionals. They’re going to turn me down,” and stuff like that. Me being me, I contacted my own personal OB/GYN. I went to see her. I wasn’t pregnant or nothing. I wasn’t planned on being pregnant anytime soon, but I knew I wanted a third child. I went to him. I was like, “Listen. This is my story. This is my situation. I really want to try for a vaginal birth. I know it can happen.”

I went on the Facebook groups again. I registered in all of the VBAC after multiple Cesareans. I went and checked VBAC special scars. I went into all of those groups. I saw it was possible. Women were doing it all over the world. I was like, “Why not me? My body is also capable. Plus, I got to 9.5. That means my body is working. I just had unfortunate circumstances.” That’s what I thought.

My doctor was like, “You know what? Get pregnant. Come back, and we’ll talk about it.” She wasn’t closed off to the idea.

Fast forward, I got pregnant earlier in 2023. I lost that baby due to miscarriage. I got pregnant again in September. That was a surprise pregnancy. I wasn’t really planning for it. When I got pregnant, I was like, “Okay, this is it. This is it. We’re going to try to do everything we can to make it happen.”

I know for the first 20 weeks, I also tried to relax and release. I felt like my body held so much tension, and I feel like that can hold up to birth. I was trying to go and deal with all of those traumas and things like that that I hadn’t dealt with in my previous births.

Meagan: Traumas, triggers, past experiences, the tension that is being harbored in our body. It’s weird to think that, but really, we can harbor tension whether we relate to it as trauma or not, and it can really impact us.

Aisha: It can really impact us. After my second birth, I had gone to pelvic floor therapy. I had been to that for a couple of months, then stopped 6 months prior to getting pregnant officially with my last baby.

When I got pregnant, I went back to see my pelvic floor therapist. I’m like, “Listen. I’m pregnant. This is what we are planning. Right now, I just want to make sure that my muscles down there are okay. I want to do the exercises. I don’t want to do too much, but just prep my body slowly and surely.”

We did exercises. That was the first 20 weeks. The second 20 weeks, I’m like, “Okay. Now is the time to ask the questions.” I would see her every 6 weeks, and within those 6 weeks, every question that would come in my head, I would write in down in my notes and go and ask her the questions so she could answer.

I asked her to review my op reports so I could have another opinion. I was asking her a lot of questions about VBAC after two Cesareans. I got that my doctor wasn’t VBAC-friendly, but I think she’s pro-women’s choice. She goes with what you want, and she supports you wholeheartedly in your decisions. I remember asking her questions about VBACs after two C-sections.

She kept telling me, “Aisha, I think you need to realize that new studies have shown that there is not much risk after one or two Cesareans. It’s almost the same. The percentage doesn’t go up. There’s not much difference. If you’ve had a C-section, you have the same chances as if you’ve had a second C-section. That’s what the studies are showing.”

I asked her about my dehiscence, and she’s like, “A lot of women who didn’t have a C-section can have a dehiscence, but with some women, we don’t see it because they’re not getting opened up.” She’s like, “It happens more than you think. It doesn’t mean that it’s because of your scar that you had the dehiscence. It could have been that’s just how your body reacted.”

After all of those affirmations, that reassured me a little bit. I was not risking my baby. At the same time, you read stories, and you just don’t want to make foolish decisions even though in your heart, you know what you want. When you listen to the outside world, it can influence a little bit of how you are thinking, and you are trying to make a wise decision. That was me in that second part of my pregnancy.

However, the one thing she told me was, “The one thing that can make or break your VBAC, though, is getting a doula.” Every time she would see me, she was like, “Did you get your doula? Did you get your doula? Did you get your doula?”

So I went. I got a doula who also had a VBAC. It was very important to have someone who had the experience of having a VBAC. I feel like when your team knows how badly you want it and what it means to you, I feel like it changes a lot for your game. I remember having my little prebirth classes with her, and she kept telling me, “You need to build a team who believes in your goal more than you believe in your goal because at some point during the birth, you’re going to doubt yourself, and you need people who are going to reinforce you with confidence and positivity.”

Meagan: Positivity, yes.

Aisha: Yes, and that you can do it and that your body was meant for this. Of course, within that too, we also prepped for the occasion of a possible C-section, how to have a gentle C-section, and things I wanted to have. For me, it was very important for me to see my baby’s being born. That’s something I never experienced with both of my daughters. I heard them cry, but it was this wall in front of me. I never saw them come out of me.

We also prepped for that, but yeah. We did a lot of prepping. She suggested that I go see an osteopath. With my second daughter, and my first VBAC, I had seen a chiropractor, but she told me that an osteopath might help loosen up some muscles. I went to see that person. It felt good, then I did acupuncture at the same time which I think was maybe just to release and relax and let go.

I think there were a lot of little things that I did in order to just not hold on to all of the stress– writing letters and closing up chapters. I feel like it allowed me to just let go of the traumas that I had.

Fast forward to my due date for my second baby. I lose a good part of my mucus plug. I sent it to my doula. She was like, “Okay, I think your body is starting to work.” Now, I can say I was starting to have contractions, but my way that I think I handled this birth was denial.

The whole time that I was having those contractions, I kept saying, “They are painful Braxton Hicks. They are painful Braxton Hicks, and that’s what we are going to do.” I kept walking a lot and every day, I was taking an hour walk. During those hour walks, that’s when I was listening to the podcast and listening to stories and literally looking for VBAC after two Cesarean stories and hearing what women went through and their tips and tricks.

That happened at my 40-week due date. Then the contractions kept going. During the daytime, they would spread out a little bit. At night time, they would be every 10-15 minutes. They would wake me up from sleeping, so I knew deep down that something was going on, but I was not trying to put my heart into it. I’m like, “They are just Braxton Hicks.” That kept on going for two days.

At 40 weeks and 3 days, I had my doctor’s appointment. I remember waking up that morning and being like, “Oh, those Braxton Hicks are really pushing.” I remember my husband was like, “Do you think we should go and drop of the girls at their godmother’s?” I’m like, “You know what? No. I don’t think this is it.”

I had my appointment that afternoon. I have a friend of mine who lives next to my doctor’s office. She had a 6-month-old baby at that time. I’m like, “Let’s drop the girls off at my friend’s, then afterward, I can snuggle up the baby because I heard oxytocin might help everything get going.”

I went to see my doctor. My doctor asked if I wanted to get checked. That’s one thing too, I went through the whole pregnancy not wanting to get checked. I knew that dilation means nothing.

Meagan: Yes.

Aisha: There is also how effaced you are and the baby’s station. Those are also other things that you must know. You can be at a 10 and be stationed at a -2. It doesn’t mean your baby is still coming. There are a lot of little details that I discovered.

Meagan: We don’t talk about it. We don’t talk about it. We focus so highly on that big 10 number when there is so much more. It’s funny because with my clients, they’ll be like, “Oh, I got checked, and I was only this centimeter.” I’m like, “I don’t even care about the centimeter. What were you effaced?” They’re like, “I don’t know. They didn’t say anything.” Next time you get checked, ask because that number is a cooler number.

Let’s get effaced. Let’s do that. Even then, we know that can change. We can go from thick, hard, and posterior to completely open and thin. It all varies, and it varies quickly, but there are so many other things to focus on than just that big 10 number.

Aisha: Exactly. That’s why I never asked to get checked the whole time. I’m like, “I’m going to go like that without checking. That will be bad.” When I got there, my doctor knew. She was like, “You’re not getting checked, right?” At every appointment, she would ask, and I’m like, “No, I’m not getting checked today.” She asked, “Are you having contractions?” I’m like, “I lost my mucus plug last night. I’m having painful Braxton Hicks.” She’s like, “How painful?” I’m like, “Well, people contract and call it Braxton Hicks.”

She’s like, “Keep doing what you’re doing, however, when you go to the hospital if ever you don’t give birth by 41 weeks, we have to send you to do a non-stress test to the baby, and the hospital will read your report, and they’re going to force you to have a C-section. Be ready.” She was prepping me. She was like, “I’m going to write in your file that it’s VBAC after two Cesareans. We’ve talked about it. You’re going to do a trial of labor. I’m letting it go.”

She was okay with letting me to go at least 41+5 and 42 weeks.

Meagan: Or what evidence shows, okay.

Aisha: She wasn’t giving me any stress. She told me that the one thing that was giving me confidence was the fact that my body went into labor twice, and my body knows what to do. I left that appointment. I went to my friend’s house. I snuggled up with the baby. Every time I would take the baby, my contractions, the painful Braxton Hicks, would be every 5 minutes. They would come more often than not.

The moment we left her house, I’m like, “Okay, I don’t have the baby no more, but the painful Braxton Hicks keep going.” In the car ride, it was a 20-minute car ride to my house. I got to my house. I didn’t say nothing to my husband. I took my daughters. I went to give them a bath. I was showering with them actually. It was a shower. I was showering with them. I was on my knees, and at some point, I had to stop and be like, “Okay. Those Braxton Hicks are quite painful.” I gave the girls a shower. I dressed them up. They went to bed. I came downstairs to my husband and was like, “You know what? Yeah. The Braxton Hicks are becoming more and more painful.” He was like, “Okay. Do you want me to pack up the car?” I’m like, “No, they are still Braxton Hicks. We are not there yet.”

Then what really made me believe that I was in labor was whenever I am in labor are my bowel movements. I think my body releases and cleans out.

Meagan: Common. That’s very common.

Aisha: I went to the bathroom twice in the span of 30 minutes. I looked at him, and I was like, “I think we’re in labor.” That’s the moment I used contractions for the first time. The contractions were there. I just went to the bathroom twice. Okay. Eat and drink because those are two things I never did with my previous labors. One thing my doula told me during the prep was, “You need to hydrate your body because the muscle that is dehydrated is a muscle that is going to contract even more. Maybe that’s why you were contracting and your contractions with your second labor were back to back with no breaks.”

I’m like, “Yeah, I wasn’t drinking water. I was so dehydrated. My lips were all cracked. I was not drinking an ounce of water.” When my husband heard, “Okay, labor is starting,” we started drinking. I ate dinner. It was around 9:00 PM. We bought those maple waters because we heard maple water is filled with electrolytes. I started drinking that. Then we went upstairs. I’m like, “I’m going to get some rest and try to sleep a little bit since it’s nighttime.” I went to bed. It wasn’t comfortable. I stayed for 15 minutes, then I’m like, “Okay, I’m going to go in the shower.” My husband ran a shower. It wasn’t helping. We ran a bath. I went in the bath. I stayed there for maybe 30 minutes. It was not comfortable, then I got up. I went to pee, and then I had my bloody show.

Everything was out. I sent a photo to my midwife and my doula. She was like, “Okay. Get ready. I think your body is really doing a lot right now.” In my head, I’m like, “Since my body is doing its work right now, let me help it. I’m going to sit on the toilet.” I heard it’s a dilation station, so I’m like, “I’m going to sit there, then hopefully, if I’m in pain, let me make it effective.”

I go. I sit there. Believe me or not, that was the best position for me.

Meagan: I loved it too. I loved it too.

Aisha: I loved it. I was at peace. I had the light turned off, the rain sound going, and I was literally sleeping. When I say sleeping, I was snoring. I was waking up slightly just for contractions, then I was going back to bed. I never timed any of my contractions. We were not going to focus on timing. We were going to go with how we feel, and the sounds and stuff like that.

Yeah. I stayed there, I think, for 2.5 hours or 3 hours on the toilet.

Meagan: Wow.

Aisha: It felt so good. I had a pillow. I slept there. At some point, you can hear in my sound that it was a bit more there. My doula was hearing me. She told my husband, “You know what? I think this is time. You guys need to pack up the kids and go to the hospital.” We are about 35-40 minutes away from the hospital, so we had quite a drive.

My husband packed up the car, and around 2:00 AM, we left to the hospital. I remember prior to labor, I told myself, “I’m going to give myself a coping mechanism. As long as I’m home, I’m just going to do nothing and try to take it in.” Once I’m in the car, I bought those combs. I was going to have the combs in my hand for the car ride, then once contractions are really unbearable, I’m going to grab the second comb. In the car ride, I had that one comb. I took it.

We went to the hospital, but the contractions were so great. I had time to do curbside walking around the hospital when we got there. My girls' godmother came and met us at the hospital so we could transfer the girls. While they were doing that transfer, I was doing curbside walking. I was taking photos. I was like, “I need to take photos of my girls.” I was in such a happy mood. The contractions were spread out which was a first for me because with all of my other labors, the moment I got to the hospital, it was an emergency and I could not control myself.

We got there. We got to the hospital. I was able to give them my name and fill out my papers. I was really clear-minded. I went into triage and I was a bit scared because with my other labors, when I got checked, I was at 1 centimeter or 2 centimeters. I was going to see what I am, but you know what? We can handle it because the contractions were still spread apart. If I was a 2, I would still be good.

I lay down. I got checked, and they told me I was at 5 centimeters. I thought, “Oh my god.” I asked, “What is the station and how effaced am I?” Then they were like, “You are 80% effaced, and you’re at the station -2.” I’m like, “Okay. This is it. We’re doing it.” They were like, “We are admitting you. You’re not going to go home.” I was so excited.

However, that’s when the battle started. They took my file and came back.

Meagan: Darn it.

Aisha: They said, “We see you had two Cesareans already. Usually, you need to have a C-section after two C-sections.” I’m like, “I discussed with my doctor, and she was okay with me doing a trial of labor. They were like, “Well, no. This is not usually how things go. We usually don’t do that. There’s a lot of risk for your baby.” I’m like, “Yeah. I know the risk and I’m okay with it. It’s something my doctor and I discussed. We are very at peace with it.”

Then they sent me the doctor on call. The doctor came, and she was like, “I need to explain to you the dangers of what you are about to do. Your baby might die when you have a second C-section.” Then they brought up the dehiscence. “After a trial of labor, you had a dehiscence. This is not good for your body to have a dehiscence. You are more prone to uterine rupture.” All of those notes were observed by my doctor, and she was completely fine with it. Literally, the doctor looked at me, and she was like, “I can see nothing I’m going to say will change your mind. You’re quite informed.”

I’m like, “Yeah.” She was like, “I’m going to have you sign these release papers so you can release the hospital of anything.” At that moment, you feel like you’re doing something not great because you’re like, “They’re making me sign this paper.”

Meagan: Yeah, you feel like you’re pushing against everyone in the professional world who have done multiple years of school and what they are suggesting. It feels off.

Aisha: It feels off, but you what? That’s why I was talking about releasing and really listening to me. That made me feel so much more at peace because I’m like, “I have to listen to that voice inside. Aisha, you can do this. You have prepped for this literally for four years in the making since your first C-section. You’re educated. You know the risks. This paper is not going to make the risks change. You were okay with it before they presented that paper to you. You can still be okay with it after.”

They gave me the paper. I signed everything, and then they asked me, “Well, we need to keep you monitored, however. We need to keep you monitored, and we need to have the easy access port installed in case.”

Meagan: The hep lock, mhmm.

Aisha: I told them that I didn’t want it because it wasn’t in my birth plan. I was like, “I don’t want that.” I also had a super cute pink, floral hospital gown. I was like, “I’m going to wear that. I don’t want to wear their hospital gown.” I think it was just mentally to feel like you are the birther, and you are the principal actor in the event. I didn’t want to feel like a patient.

They came. They were like, “You need to change.” I’m like, “I don’t want to change. I want to keep my gown.” I had to sign a release paper that it was okay if they cut off my gown. I said, “Listen, the gown is made for that. There are buttons all around the back, but if you have to cut it off, cut it off, but I’m keeping this on.” At the end, I felt like I had to be somewhat political a little bit and give them a little so they could stop bugging me because they were breaking my bubble with the constant questions and the constant arguing.

Within all of that, I was still having contractions. I’m like, “You know what? I’m going to let them monitor the baby, and I’m going to let them do the easy port so they can stop casting their opinions on my VBAC.” I know my doula was a bit scared especially for the monitoring because they were like, “The second the heart rate drops, they’re going to use it as a way to send you to the operating room.” I know the second they put the monitor on, the baby’s heart rate went down during the contractions, and it went right back up after.

One of the nurses was like, “See? Your baby’s heart rate is already going down. This is why we need to keep it.” I had the doula on the other line. She was coming to the hospital. I asked, “The baby’s heart is going down.” She was like, “Aisha, it’s normal that your baby’s heart rate is going down during a contraction. He’s literally getting squeezed. It’s just normal practice. If it comes back up, it’s completely fine.”

Every time, they would pass those comments. The baby’s heart rate dropped a couple of times, probably 7-8 times over the whole labor process, but every time, they would make a comment, “Oh, see? It dropped again. Oh, see? It dropped again.” But it kept picking back up the whole time.

Anyway, I got admitted to my room. They tried to do the easy access port. I have small veins, so it literally took the anesthesiologist to do it. The whole nursing team failed to do it. I kept telling them to do it in one spot that people usually have better luck. They did it everywhere else, and in the end, it was that part that functioned.

By the time they did the easy port access, it was around 7:00 AM. I got to the hospital around 4:00. It was around 7:00 AM. I asked to be checked again because, at that point, I was doing dances. The contractions were so intense, I was not happy. I was not laughing no more. I was still having breaks between them, but it was really taking everything out of me.

At that point, the whole time before that, I was really enjoying the contractions. They were coming. I was like, “Oh, this is nice. I’m getting to meet my baby.” I loved the feeling to be honest. People find me weird when I say that I love contractions, but at that point, it was not fun anymore.

I was going against the wall and doing those squat dances and moving my body left to right. I requested doing a check. They checked me. They were like, “Oh, you’re at 9.5 and 100%.” However, baby was still stationed at -2. I’m like, “Oh no, baby is pretty high up.” My doula and I started to do some positions to get baby down. We did those for 30 minutes, but like I said, the contractions were really, really, really pushing it.

I requested to get checked again. I know my doula was like, “Nothing probably happened.” She was right. Nothing happened. It was still the same, 9.5 and effaced at 100%, and still stationed to -2. At that point, I’m like, “Okay, I’m going to request the epidural.” I was seeing stars. Every time I would go through a contraction, I would see stars. At that point, I was literally, I think, mentally checked out. I was fighting against the contractions because every time a contraction would start, I would tell myself, “Okay, now you need to survive this next one.” It was no longer about enjoying it.

Meagan: Surviving it, yeah.

Aisha: It wasn’t, “You know what, Aisha? It’s four breaths. Take four deep breaths and it’s done.” It was more of a survival mindset. I was like, “I’m going to take the epidural and be calm and be good.” They came. They gave it to me. They gave me a very tidbit because I was still walking. I could still feel. Yeah. I was still walking with the epidural. I could still feel everything. It just took off the edge. I think the contractions and the pain was in the front of my belly, and the back pain was gone, but I could still feel the pressure.

While the anesthesiologist was giving me the epidural, my body was starting to push. I would have that feeling and everything. I think he gave me a tiny bit.

Anyway, the second epidural was done, it was already shift change, so the night nurses were gone. The new nurses were in, and I think when I say the team makes a difference, they were angels sent. They were so kind. My doula went to see who was the doctor on call for the daytime, and she came to see me. She was like, “If you didn’t have your own personal OB/GYN, this is the one who you would have wanted to have. This one here, that doctor here.” Then she came. She was super happy.

She was like, “Okay, I see you’re trying for a VBAC. The whole floor, when I heard about your case, they were saying that you had a uterine rupture. I’m like, ‘That’s not right. Her doctor wouldn’t have let her do a trial of labor after a rupture.’ I went through your file, and I saw that you only had a dehiscence. It’s very common.” She literally repeated the same thing that my doctor said. She was like, “A lot of women who didn’t even have a C-section end up having a lot of dehiscence. It’s just that we never know because they are never opened for a C-section to mark it down.”

She was like, “It’s completely common. We’re going to do this.” She was like, “You’ve been at 9.5 for 2-3 hours, and your baby’s station hasn’t descended. Let’s see what’s going on.” She brought an ultrasound machine, and she performed the ultrasound on me. She literally saw that it was the baby’s head’s position. His head was slightly crooked to the left.

Meagan: Asynclitic, mhmm.

Aisha: Exactly. That’s when I’m telling you that I love these people. I’m still having butterflies thinking about them. They came with the Miles Circuit. They came with the sheet with the images, and they’re like, “We’re going to do those.” I’m like, “The Miles Circuit!” They’re like, “Yes.” I’m like, “Oh my god. You guys are my people.”

We started doing the Miles Circuit. I did every movement for 30 minutes. I held it for 30 minutes. I did the cowgirl, I think they call it.

Meagan: The flying cowgirl.

Aisha: Exactly. Then after that, they came back. My doctor thought the baby’s position had changed, but my water hadn’t broken yet. She was like, “I’m going to break your water. The worst case scenario is that your baby’s heart doesn’t handle it, but I think that’s going to make us go to the next level.”

She broke my water. Literally, within the time she broke it and went to check, I was ready to go. That was literally all it took. She was like, “Okay, we’re going to start pushing.” I know in my birth plan, I said that I was not going to push on my back lying down. I went on my four knees. I went first in my knees. I was holding onto the bed, and I was pushing that way.

But I was so tired. I hadn’t eaten in a while. I was still drinking, so drinking was good, but I hadn’t eaten. My doula gave me candy. That helped me, but I remember in that exact moment, in my thoughts, “Aisha, your baby did it. This is your time now to help your baby. This is it. You’ve waited four years for this moment. This is it. This is all you’ve wanted. You need to find strength somewhere and make it happen.”

I looked at them. I’m like, “I’m going to lie down.” I laid down, and my doula gave me this blanket. They attached this.

Meagan: Mhmm, some tug-of-war. You did some tug-of-war, mhmm.

Aisha: I was pulling on it when I was pushing, and my mom and a nurse were pushing my legs up. Yeah, then I pushed. I pushed. I pushed, and at some point, my body was pushing automatically whenever the contraction would come. It would literally do that. I would bear down by myself. I know the doctor kept looking at me. She was like, “Wow. This is awesome.”

Yeah. I think I pushed for 45 minutes, and then he was born. My husband is actually the one who caught the baby.

Meagan: Oh, yay.

Aisha: That’s what we wanted. We caught him. We did not know the gender, so it was really fun to see that it was a boy after two daughters. Once he was born, they put him on my chest. Everybody was crying. I know the nurses were crying. The doctor was crying. I’ve never had a hug from a doctor, and she literally came to my bedside and hugged me. She was like, “This is the moment. We don’t see this often, so thank you for letting us experience this.”

I know for a lot of the nurses, it was almost the shift change. It was almost 3:00 PM when he was born. One of the nurses looked at me. She was like, “My shift is ending in about 30 minutes. I need to see this. I need to witness this happening.” Then, yeah. He was born, and I think I had a first-degree tear, but it was on the outer labia. It was because when he was born–

Meagan: Superficial.

Aisha: Yeah, he had his hand on his face like a Superman.

Meagan: Oh my goodness, so you had a nuchal hand, too? Oh my gosh.

Aisha: Yeah, in the photos of it, it’s so precious. My doula took photos, and you can literally see his hand coming out. Yeah. It was great because that evening, that night, the doctor came back on her shift. She heard that I gave birth. She came to apologize, literally. She was like, “I heard that you gave birth vaginally. Congratulations. I’m so sorry for not supporting you in that sense. There is a risk, and not every woman ends up having great stories like yours.”

Meagan: Oh gosh.

Aisha: “But we are happy for you.” I was just happy that I proved them wrong and that I made history in that hospital having a VBAC after two Cesareans. It happens. It’s possible. I’m just happy that I listened to that voice inside, and that all of the noise around me did not affect my initial desires.

Meagan: Yeah, and overall, your final decision, right? We’ve talked about this. I call it static. There’s a lot of static that, I feel like, looms over VBAC moms. At least it did for me, and I do see it sometimes with my clients. It’s their friends, their family, their providers, or whoever it may be, they are looming with this unnecessary static.

Aisha: Yes.

Meagan: A lot of it is, “Well, there’s risk and what if’s.” Oh, you name it. So many of these things, and really, I took a whole bunch of notes of little nuggets of your story. I can relate in a lot of ways with your story. It’s similar to mine with how things unfolded.

From the very beginning, you started off right. You started off right. You found the provider. You found the team. You got the support. You got the education. You dove in, and like you said, this was four years in the making. It took you four years to learn and grow and have this experience that you wanted.

Sometimes, it takes one time to try. I say “try” with quotes, but to go and have a trial of labor, and it maybe not work out like mine and your situation. And then, okay, we learned from those two situations. Now how can we learn and grow from those situations and change and develop this next situation? It’s so weird. My mind right now is really heavy on my daughter’s reflections. They do reflections at school. It’s a big art thing. Her topic is overcoming imperfections.

Sometimes, in the birth world and especially as women, as you were saying earlier in your story, we have this thing that if we don’t do it this way or if it doesn’t happen this way, maybe our motherhood is stripped away, or we failed, or our baby failed. We can go as far as our baby failed us or whatever it may be. Overall, no situation is perfect. There are just always imperfections, and what do we do with the situation to grow and transform?

I mean, really. I went over some of it, and then just learning more about hydration and how important food is and fueling our bodies.

Aisha: Yes, yes. It’s a marathon. You cannot run a marathon without an ounce of water or without food. You see it when you see people doing half marathons. There are people on the sidelines giving them water.

Meagan: They’re fueling.

Aisha: Right. They’re fueling. It is important and necessary. Knowing that the providers, as much as yes, we do have faith in them, they are there to help us, and they are there. I don’t want to say this in a bad way, but they are working with us and for us. Do you know what I mean? They don’t have the final say. We have the final say. That doctor who was there, when I told you about the dream team, she never ever does hospital rounds. She usually just does prenatals. Even the nurses said, “We usually see her once or twice a year. She never comes.” That ended up being the one time a year that she came. She looked at me and said that she is a pro-choice woman. She was like, “When a woman makes a choice, even if they fail, she will be happier, and she will be able to cope with the results way better than if someone strips her of that choice and obliges her to do something she did not consent to do. The outcome of that will be way harder to overcome than if she is the one who made the decision regardless of the result. That is way better.”

Meagan: It’s so true.

Aisha: I wholeheartedly believe that. I know I had to really see in myself if that doesn’t work. I know sometimes, we go into labor very naively. I feel like every first-time mom and even second-time sometimes, that can happen especially if let’s say you were going for a vaginal birth, then you have a C-section, then you’re trying for another vaginal birth, it’s still in some sense the first time that you are going to experience this sort of experience. You’re still going into it naively and blindly. Like I said, I never knew a C-section could be an option.

The second time, I’m like, “It cannot happen to me twice.” After it happened to me twice, I planned for it. I planned in the circumstance that there would be a C-section, what do I want to happen? I knew I had my guidelines, and at least it wouldn’t be a shocker and a hard pill to swallow. I would have been okay because I had my trial of labor.

At the end of the day, your baby does decide how they want to be born. I feel like one thing I would advise all mamas and even fathers or partners, we need to include them to that. I feel like talking to your baby makes a whole lot of a difference. I got that advice from my osteopath where he told me a story about his wife about to be wheeled into a C-section. He came. He spoke to their daughter who was in the womb. He was like, “This is your moment. You decide. If you want to go to a C-section, do it. If not, this is the moment to change things.” His wife ended up having a vaginal birth right at the moment that they were going to.

I pulled my husband up at some point I remember when I was starting to push. He came and saw the baby, then he was like, “This is your moment. You decide how you want to be born. You choose, and your mama is going to help you do this.” I feel like having that communication, our babies sense everything, so being connected to that too is so important. It’s so important.

Meagan: Absolutely. Absolutely. Circling back really quickly, if we do all of the things, if we take the VBAC education course, listen to the stories, learn more, read more, learn the stats, hire the team, and all of the things, we do our fear clearing processing about past experiences and all of that, and then we go in and be fearmongered like they were trying with you, and fearmongering by definition is that “it causes fear by exaggerated rumors of impending dangers”. There were big things that were said, but if you hadn’t done the research and the education, you easily may have been fearmongered.

Sometimes, it’s even easy to be fearmongered even with the education. I will say that straight up. When you are being told that your baby could die, that word is very, very triggering. But you were able to have the education and be like, “No. I understand what you are saying. I respect what you are saying. I am going to continue moving forward this way.”

But if we would be fearmongered and not have the education and then later learn the education, overall, our experience and view and our feelings postpartum would be a little bit rougher because we are learning these things that we could have learned before.

That’s why education is one of the biggest tips that we can give because you need to be educated along the way because it is easy for someone to come in. Look at you, Aisha, “No, no, no, no.” How many times did you have to say, “I understand, but no, no, no, no.” It sucks that that’s the reality, and trust me, it ticks me off so much.

Aisha: It is.

Meagan: I wish it would change, but if we aren’t educated and armed with that team, with that power, with our experience, then we are more likely going to fold in those situations.

Aisha: It is completely true. At some point, even one of the nurses told me when they were trying to do the easy port that I needed to stop moving because this was going to end up with a C-section, and they really need to do the easy port. I had to tell her to never repeat the word “C-section” in front of my face.

It sucks that for women or people experiencing multiple Cesareans or even one Cesarean when they are trying to do a vaginal birth that they need to constantly fight for it.

Meagan: Yes.

Aisha: But you do need to stand your ground and really focus on what you want. The fears will come, but that’s a moment where you need to rely on the education that you have and all of the process. You spent 9 months preparing yourself, and all of those months must count for something. You’re not going to be that one person. That’s what I was telling myself. In the case that yes, the unfortunate happens, I was at the best place at the best time, and I had the best team. That was my thing. I trusted in my team that everything would be fine. But no, definitely. Yeah. You need to believe in yourself and in your project.

Meagan: Yes. Oh my gosh. Well, this episode is just jampacked with all of the nuggets of information, guidance, suggestions, and empowering feelings. Oh my gosh. Thank you so much for being here with us today and sharing with us your beautiful story.

Aisha: Thank you. Thank you for having me. Thank you so much. It’s a dream.

Meagan: Oh my gosh. Well, congratulations again.

Aisha: Thank you so much.

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