48. How to Develop Discipline as a Skill (And Why You Don’t Have to Be Perfect)

Cowgirls Over Coffee

In this episode of Cowgirls Over Coffee, we're having an honest conversation about a topic every high-achieving woman needs to tackle: discipline. We all know that feeling of knowing exactly what you need to do but struggling to get it done or being so disciplined that it's actually working against you. Today, we're stripping back the layers and getting curious about what discipline truly means, why it's not about being perfect, and how you can build it as a skill rather than treating it like a fixed part of your identity.

Together with Meg Scales, we break down the myths around discipline, willpower, and focus. We explore why hyper-discipline can be just as damaging as lacking discipline altogether and why curiosity is your secret weapon in developing the self-awareness necessary to make meaningful progress. If you've ever found yourself feeling burnt out, stuck in a cycle of inconsistency, or struggling to figure out why you're not reaching your goals, this conversation is exactly what you need.

Key Takeaways:

• The reality of discipline: It’s a skill you can build, not something you’re either born with or without
• Why being “overly disciplined” can sabotage your success and how to strike a healthy balance
• How to identify and plug the energy leaks in your life that are holding you back
• The role of curiosity and self-compassion in creating discipline that supports your goals
• Practical strategies to develop adaptable discipline so you can finally move forward with intention and clarity

Whether you’re someone who prides yourself on being disciplined or you’re struggling to find any consistency at all, this conversation is packed with actionable insights, practical strategies, and raw reflections that will help you take charge of your next steps. It’s time to stop letting discipline be a barrier (or an excuse!) and start using it as a tool to create the life you want.

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Resources & Links:

• Gretchen Rubin’s Book, "The Four Tendencies"
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Connect with Meg Scales

• Follow on Instagram @meg.scales

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