Parental (Over) Involvement & The Start of College - A Conversation with Jess Lahey

The Self-Driven Child

In this episode of the Self Driven Child podcast, I'm thrilled to welcome back one of my favorite voices in parenting, Jess Lahey. Jess is a New York Times bestselling author, an educator, and someone who's been on the front lines of both teaching and parenting. We discuss the emotional rollercoaster that is the transition from high school to college—not just for our kids, but for us as parents too.
We talk about the balance between supporting our children and giving them the space to grow into their own people. Jess shares personal anecdotes about her own children's experiences, shedding light on the challenges and triumphs that come with this major life change. Jess gives insights on how to approach the first day of college, handle the inevitable bumps along the way, and most importantly, how to step back and let our kids take the reins.

Episode Highlights:

[00:42] - Introduction to the episode and guest Jess Lahey.

[3:25] - Jess shares her experience with her children's transition to college.

[7:09] - The importance of letting kids create their own identity in college.

[14:24] - How to support your child without taking over, and the power of apology.

[22:19] - Preparing kids for the unexpected challenges in college.

[26:19] - The importance of helping kids build competence and a sense of control.

[39:17] - Understanding why kids push away during major transitions and how to handle it.

Links & Resources:

https://www.cnn.com/2024/08/16/health/college-student-independence-wellness/index.html

https://www.jessicalahey.com/comingofageinthemiddle/2015/6/21/season-of-the-malcontents

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