Living Emotionally Connected in a Social Distancing World

Warrior DIVAS | Real Talk for Real Women

Well for those of you that are joining us, we are here in the warrior divas real talk for real women Facebook group and we are doing our show we're adapting to our ever changing society. We are being emotionally connected in a social distancing world so

Today, I am excited about the show we have for you We but before we get started, I wanted to let you know that if you're watching this in the group, you can invite other people to join us in the group to watch it. comment in the comment section, give a little like a little love. Leave one of the emoticons if we make it happy, sad or mad, any of that in the in the group. And I want to welcome our guests today and just a few moments, they're gonna let us know a little bit about themselves. And then as we go through the show, you'll get to learn a little bit more about them.

As I said, I'm Angie Monroe, I am the host of the show. This show airs every Tuesday from 11am to 1pm Central Standard Time on fishbowl radio network and then you can find it starting at 3pm on all the podcast social networking sites. So if you hear something you like today or or you really want somebody else listen to that's the great way to share it. Plus, it'll be here in the group as well. So

We're going to start off we've got

Stacey up in the top we've got Janet Stacey wave.

Janet under Stacey. We've got misty right next to Stacey to Janet and then we got cam. I don't know how it's showing up on everybody. thing. I guess mine's a little bit different. So getting yelled away. So I want y'all to we're gonna start with Stacey and kind of go in that order. So Stacy if you will, kind of give us a who you are, what your occupation is, where you're located and what you're passionate about.

My name is Stacey Penny when I am the owner of Alexander medical Spa in Hurst, Texas. I'm also very involved in the Chamber of Commerce. I'm on the board of directors. I'm also on the board of directors for central arts of Bedford and Hearst. I like being involved in the community. That's one of my passions. I love helping other people. I like to be involved in charities. I also am

passionate about learning. And I like to learn from other people. I like to learn from books. And I like to learn from doing.

And this is my first podcast so I'm learning right now. Awesome.

All right, we have Janet Janet, tell us a little bit Hey, Shay break out and dance or when I was live that

and you did that sway app yesterday, didn't you?

Yes, I had 500 views as people actually think I can dance that good which is really awesome. Yeah, I can't really dance that good y'all. Okay, my name is Janet Manor and I live in the middle of nowhere Kansas. I used to live in Texas and I miss you guys miss all the Texas hair and all the beauty of Texas women. And not that I don't love my Kansas ladies, but I do miss Texas and and I am retired but I still passionate about helping

People, I

I take a lot of phone calls and do a lot of praying for people still people call me for that a lot. And I teach a Bible study class of about 25 women every Monday night. So that's I'm really passionate about studying the Bible. I have the time, most of the time now to do it. And so

a very busy life up until this point. So it's been, it's a blessing to be able to sit and sit in word and he's, we just did James Bible study. And so he's prepared us for a time as this to consider it all joy to be in this trial. That's where we are. And as women and all the people that we love and care for are going to follow our lead. You're just really that's the truth and our families. So trying to keep it all joyful here, and it's not being unrealistic, but

now's the time to shine. Ladies, now's the time to shine. So absolutely, absolutely. Misty, how about you? Hi, I missed you.

I'm the owner of picture perfect brows and beauty and co founder of expanded woman. And you know, I, I'm located but for Texas By the way, and I'm super passionate about people, connecting others and also just empowering other women building confidence. Those are the things and I'm very woman centric as well. So I definitely think we aligned in that way, Angie. Absolutely. So Kim,

Kim get started. Marcel

reviver talk about her so much, but many of y'all have not ever really officially met her. So this is Kim. Hi, Kim. I'm Kim.

And I'm in Grapevine, Texas. And um, I, for a long time have been a small business owner had a graphic design business out of my house. Really

Long time

since 2015, I've been doing ministry and biblical counseling with women and I graduated last November with my certification to be a biblical counselor. And so, out of that, hopefully a ministry is being birthed.

But, you know, God had different plans for how 2020 is gonna go so I'm just

my word for the year was restart. Um, I know that I'm still very passionate about women seeing women healed, broken hearts restored, just walking in freedom and and the path that God has for them. So that's my true passion and how that shows up and what that looks like kind of ebbs and flows.

As I think I'm growing and maturing in the Lord, so we'll see what he has for next.

Yeah, it's interesting because without planning it tonight, we ended up with two of the ladies on the show that have helped me with my external beauty. We got misty and Stacy that have helped me with the external beauty. And then

Janet and Kim have helped me with my spiritual beauty over the last several years of my life, and I tell the story about mending the soul all the time and how much I hated that class but loved that class. And Janet's the one that kind of I brought it up to her one day and she goes you're in my class period, you know it's done now I was like, Okay, what did I get myself into? So

and then all that you've seen growing with divas impact the magazine The the beautiful flyers and all the thing, the logo for warrior divas all of that has been done by Kim. So pm is the previous

creative genius behind all of that. So Mary, and I just get to come up with great, crazy ideas and go, Hey, friends, let's have some fun.

But

so, you know, Kim has been on isolation a little bit longer than the rest of us. And I'll let her share a little bit about that as we go on. But we were just talking about what is the purpose of the show? What are we wanting to do with the show? And yes, I'm not touching my face. I'm touching my hair. So don't anybody freak out about Corona on me because I'm putting my hair in my house.

But,

you know, our biggest thing is we want to be somebody that shines a light. So we realized that when you are socially isolated, you don't need to be emotionally isolated. And so we're going to start doing more and more things like this inside the group. Just to have a fun way Friday night, we're going to have a

pajama party inside the group everybody show up, we're going to open up the zoom live thing. Let everybody jump on, we'll have a little dance party on there, we'll do a whole bunch of fun stuff inside the group. With that, just because moms and women married single with kids without kids, we all just need to blow off steam at some point, right? Ah. So

part of what we're wanting to be is shine that light, we're going to do that and a lot of spiritual ways. We're going to do that in a lot of emotional ways. We're going to do that in a lot of fun ways. So Friday night will be instead of a divas night out it will be a divas night in so you will start seeing us talking about that later on this week. And we'll do one of those each week until we're set free and then we'll start having divas nights out because we'll be building relationships behind the scenes. So somebody somebody had a post up the other day, one of the single

people I know was talking said, Wait a minute, you mean I actually got to talk to somebody and get to know them first before I go on a real date.

So we're going to take the opportunity to get to know you and we want to talk with, you know, the girls here, I want you to realize that it's not just me in this group. There's other amazing women in this group that can leave things up and talk with you and encourage you and inspire you. And that's what we're all here to do. So

this morning, I shared in the group, the john Maxwell video about leadership, and I was live streaming watch parties in this group and another group and trying to leave the notes in there and I do have the notes I'll put them in the notes in a file here inside the group from that section once I get them cleaned up to where other people can kind of interpret my notes as I typed them up, but they're still a little wonky and

You know, it was great because he was speaking to leaders. Now tomorrow, he's going to be talking and tomorrow and to say he's going to be talking,

turning adversity into advantage. And we're going to kind of kick that off tonight talking about what we as women are thinking and doing and feeling, and, and all of that. So

what I want you to know is, we're women here, we may be sitting in a somewhat good situation. I don't know everybody's situation here. But I do know all these women, I don't know all their stories. But I do know all these women. And I do know that they are women that lead with love, they leave with graciousness, they don't lead with fear, they lead with joy. And that's why I was so excited that they joined us on the show today. So as we get going, we're going to start off with emotional health. So first off, we're going to do a temperature check of everybody on the call. So how are you

Feeling what's going on?

For some of us, it's day one for some of us. What, 90 Kim?

Boy? So, um, you know, let's start. Let's start with Kim. Since she's been the longest Kim, how are you feeling?

I you know, I'm actually feeling really good. I think that, you know, my journey started on January 2 with my quadruple bypass. So, I think I went through some emotional shock that kind of first month, like, I came home from the hospital on the fifth. And physically, I did great. But emotionally there were some really tough days. The it's not fair. This shouldn't have happened to me, like, you know, this was just completely out of nowhere and I didn't fit the profile and you

Still, so, for me, it was sort of having to deal with a lot of the

I'm having to come to acceptance with what is my new normal, I had to come to the fact that, you know,

I don't know what my future is gonna look like and I gotta be okay with that now, you know, I don't know how this is, is gonna go it's a progressive disease. So new normal looks totally different. And then just even changing everyday habits I have to work out I have to eat completely different. And so there was a lot of that morning I can't eat a cheeseburger and my pepperoni pizza with extra cheese anymore. Took me a month and you know, but then I started discovering new foods, and I learned that I kind of did like working out and

You know, you start to accept some stuff

and roll your eyes when you said that can you rolled your eyes?

here's the here's the funny truth is, it is like ripping teeth out to get me to start working out like getting on the treadmill. But I can tell about eight minutes in. Like, I don't know if it's the dopa mean or what happens chemically but then I start liking it and my 20 minute workout I'm noticing is going 3035 40 minutes like I'm, I actually feel good I feel better. I it's, it really is starting to shift and that was something I didn't expect at all. And then I even started lifting weights this week. And that was completely something I never thought I would

be here year was restart and so in every way I've had to restart

So it is kind of neat that here God sort of prepared me because I haven't been leaving the house that much I was social isolating already cuz you know you're immunocompromised and healing and and really restricted on what you can do for a while so, you know, I think the Lord was like No Let's prepare her for the corona virus

apocalypse just a few months

so you know that's where where I'm at I think my husband thinks I'm insane cuz I have bought enough food for the apocalypse and then even like ordering online the dog snacks and dog food so he called it the dog Apocalypse Now as they are

delivering that but we're good over here in grapevine.

Good Yeah, yeah. So So misty. What about you what's going on in your

world I know there's you. You've been doing a lot inside our community as well to take care of the emotional health of some of our community. Yes, there's there's an organization that our chamber has called leadership hgb. And you're a part of the class this year and y'all had a big event planned. The next one, I

had to get scrapped because of everything that's going on. But your group in your class just pivoted so beautifully to really attend to what's going on in our community. So I want you to talk a little bit about how it affects you, but what you've been doing to help those around us. Sure, sure. So um, yesterday, you know, worse I'm a salon and permanent makeup company. So yesterday we find out that we had to close the shut down, so Okay, no more livelihood. Don't have the option of unemployment. So, you know, there's a little bit of that fear factor, but I've really been through this whole thing kind of tapped

into

books and motivational podcasts and things to just kind of get my mindset, right, because you know how that goes. But I refuse to let the devil get me and let him fill me the women are so I honestly feel way more calm than I thought I would, knowing, knowing what's going on. And it helps me to help other people during this time too. So our group has put together another group that basically, we currently call it Corona virus. Press help us here AGV. So for this whole ATV area, and let me tell you a little bit about the project that we started off with. There was

a mirror a wall that was painted on next to a company where some Hispanic people owned it and somebody graffiti I hate Mexicans on the wall. So our proud our program was to create a mural, which we did.

And it looks amazing. The mural is the map of the HTV area.

And we painted over the I hate Mexican.

And it just turned out to be so beautiful. Unfortunately, we don't get to show it off yet, but we will eventually. But it is a great reminder of all the community resources that are available in the area. So our secondary thing was to have community resource fair at the same time for the mural unveiling. So instead of doing that, and on this coronavirus, hgb we took it virtual since we cannot really be together. Um, and basically we set out you know, different resources for people what's available, we set up you know, grocery updates and activity websites and all the different things that our community could come together and we made it a needs profile, so we can help those and there's another side project to where we set up little news people

Paper stands and put products in there like toilet paper and toothpaste and and just some resources for people to just grab if they need it and also where people can donate goods as well. So it's been really good to help kind of take my mind off that of what's going on around me and helping others. Well, let me see what what's the HTV stand for?

GPS you list Bedford? Okay. I thought much better the three cities. Yeah.

So it's kind of like our little suburb area. Yeah. Yep. I just want to make sure I knew that was Sam. Yeah. And one of the one of the beautiful parts of it is if you're talking and somebody asked a question about the corona virus or different things like that, they don't want a lot of speculation in the group. One of the rules is the group is to cite your cite your source. So

we just we want to make sure that we're citing our sources at all times. So that right there is huge

for turning that to for what they're doing, because, you know, everybody can go out there and speculate and do random

what is a conspiracy theorist?

A lot of that there there is a lot of that so and I think john even said it today he goes first off if the media is your source you need to get a different source World Health Organization to you know, CDC go to places and get get it straight, quote unquote, from the horse's mouth so yeah, so Janet, what about your world? How is things going in your world? I know you've got a little space between the all the normal most of the time Yeah, well, there's still lines that are Sam's and there's still lines in our stores and people are still hoarding the toilet paper.

And so I

our little group, we we set up in the basement and we social distance to each other enough, but we're making masks

You know, the ladies can so I can't so but we're cutting. We're doing okay. I mean, I'm so grateful for

the you know, we have our phones and we can still talk and have this group and zoom and Facebook each other and FaceTime each other. I mean, what, what would we you know, I'm so grateful. I'm so grateful for that because emotionally and you know, if it all goes down, we're all gonna, it's gonna be a little more difficult, but this way we can stay connected and so I'm grateful that we have that, you know, that's really good.

As far as I can see, we're a bunch of

can i say i'm not going to use curse words but really a bunch of really tough American women. And that's starting to come out we have this Christian toughness I don't even know the warrior divas perfect because I just see a bunch of Lady she's got it together. You know, they, you know, people are sick people are isolated, you know, but they're still just kind of keeping it

together and I'm just really proud of the people that I know in my life. I know there's other people who are struggling financially lost jobs, and they're still, you know, just carrying on helping their neighbor. It's just incredible, really incredible to watch. So I'm blessed in that regard because all I see is good stuff. That's all I see. I don't see any nonsense yet. So I'm grateful

I got tickled watching the Facebook means or something the other day one of the guys goes I don't even know why we still have farmers and all that stuff. Why don't they just go to the store and buy this stuff that they want from the store? And then somebody else's if we have to, if we have to hunt for our food, I don't even know where Doritos lives.

And you know, I love the tongue and cheek of it, but it's because of that tongue in cheek. I've had people reach out to me and going Hey, could you tell me how do I make mac and cheese with ah crap. You know, they need to know how to make their

Is what mac and cheese they know they've got the ingredients for it they just don't know how to put it all together so you know trying to be some of those women that has some of these answers together not just mean not just you yeah but you know how to be creative and like my guests on my leading moment show on Thursday said he goes Guess what? He goes the store still have plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables on the shelves, because everybody's buying all the junk food all the company. Now don't eat junk food. You can.

Yeah, and then another thing he brought up that misty I was going to tell you might be I'll send you a picture for it. That might be a good thing to post in your group was if it's got the wick symbol on it, that the women and children that are eating off of that wick that's only the only cheese and milk and eggs and things that they can buy cereal that they can buy. So if you have a choice, choose something other than that, but don't wipe

Yeah, the witnesses are limited. That sounds like that is just huge. So I've been repeating that and shouting that as often as I can. So I just I took a picture of one of the wick signs the other day and said we need to post about this and I have it That's good. So I'll send you the picture lets you post about it and then I'll share it in post about it too. So all right, Stacy. So you're kind of in the same boat that misty is in yesterday, six o'clock and a face to face interaction. And then

you know, what, what are you going to be doing? How are you emotionally handling this pivot?

Well, I had already made the decision on Thursday or Friday that I was going to close before before we were closed. Because I have

employees that have children. I'm all of them. But most of my people because I'm an anti aging are older. They shouldn't be coming to see me. Some of them are secret still mentioned

He's messaging me, Hey, I'm working from home, can you can you get that treatment done to my eyes and we won't tell anybody, you know, just show up at the office. I still have that going on, because people want still want to get their stuff done. But I mean, I'm a mom and I have four children, I really don't need to get sick, what are they gonna do without me. And in the grand scheme of things, I have a roof over my head, I have food, even if my my

business falls apart, which it won't. And I need to be here for my kids and my family. They're the most important thing. So I had already chosen, but I have gone through many different emotions throughout the last couple of weeks. I was kind of in the know about certain things beforehand because my brother works for a city and he's in a director position. So he was telling me about closed downs before they were starting to be announced. And so I was wearing before everybody else

and

I feel good right now I feel the things that I feel are like, I'm excited that I'm going to get to see my kids. I'm a working mom. I'm a mom that has owned a business for almost 20 years. So I have been busy. This whole time. My kids don't see me as much as some other moms get to get to see their kids. My kids are very what they were asking yesterday, where are you home so early?

You know, why did you What's going on? Why is mom here? And so I'm anxious to see what it's going to be like when I'm here the entire week with him because, you know, they, they don't they only have that when I'm on vacation. I'm anxious to see I'm anxious to cook food. You know, I because I own a spa. I come home later. So sometimes a lot of times our food is you know what Costco made that my husband gets put in the oven before I got here. So I'm excited about getting to make some things and getting to do some art projects. That's what I'm

Putting my focus in. Now I know, I have a list of things that I can get done remotely, to move my business forward. But every time I think about my list, I also think about, I know that I'm going to be okay. What can I do to help people that are probably not going to be okay? Yeah, that's good. There's so many people that work in a restaurant that are paycheck to paycheck. You know, I have a business savings account. I can cover my bills for a while. at my office. My husband works from home. He we're not going to lose any income from him at all. So what can I do to help other people?

That's what I've been thinking about. Yeah.

But I, I mean, I'm

my, my biggest fear is, I don't know how to not be busy.

I know I was thinking the same thing. I think how do I think

that problem

So maybe I can figure out how to be busy doing more things that are fun. The other thing that I think all of us are going to figure out how to be busy at home organizing and whatever else we can think of. We should people like me and Missy who take care of people all day long. We don't take care of ourselves as much. Right? So we should probably think about doing some self care. Mm hmm. Already on that? Yeah. Are you? Mm hmm. No, I watched your list. I can say I can tell you that. I used to be super busy. And I'm not super busy. Now. As much as I was when I lived in Texas. Also, I've had six months of my husband being retired at home. How's that?

Because I'm worried about two weeks in with my husband. And there is an adjustment and he's a I'm married to a really nice man.

It's still an adjustment. So you will have those moments, right, honestly. And I just say, I'm gonna go in my room and be by myself, you know, I just take that time, but you learn to do other things when you're not busy working or taking care of kids, like, I still help with my grandkids too. So,

you know, I'm trying to do art projects and find things. I mean, I've already raised my kids and I'm having to rethink how do I do all this care at home for these kids. And so, but the business that you have when you're outside working versus coming home, I will say it's an adjustment but you're you guys are creative women, and you're hard working and so you're going to find things to fill your time you think, Oh, I'm gonna retired and I'm not gonna be as busy. That's not true. You just find different things to do because you're productive and because you like helping and because you like doing, you will find other things to do. I mean, that's just, it's God's good that way. He does give us other things and God help us all might instead of hit water, you might have to have some wine and let's be honest

Vodka, I'm just kidding.

Really.

wine, take yourself, take your bath. But you know,

God's gonna give you what you need when you need it. I mean, it's amazing. So you think I'm gonna have all this free time no other people are gonna come and look to you for things they're gonna call you. They call you and come to you because they know they can't. And they know you're going to answer they know you're going to cry with them when they cry, and you're gonna laugh when they laugh. And they know that if they call you you'll answer Now, I'm not saying being emotionally available for everybody all the time, but you find new things to do is I guess the point, you know, and

and what you said God will find what you need when you need it. So the past probably three or four months, I've been training a new employee and then my employee of nine or 10 years is moving on and it's been really difficult. I've been working six, seven days a week, so maybe this is what I needed.

Trying to stay home a little. I think the Lord, the Lord's just sending an adjustment, you know, we've been prepared for this time, as a time we're all prepared for this time we've been placed here. It's not a coincidence that we're all women and Esther's at this time. And you know, you'll find your inner Esther, and you'll, you know, God's gonna put people in front of us, and he's going to give us what we need when we need it. And even if you're a single mom, and you ask for help, just ask for help, because this older ladies are willing to, you know, even if, you know, we, we can watch them on a park bench. We don't have to, we don't have to be in the same room with them. But we can actually watch a kid for an hour or whatever. I mean, you can do that outside. We don't you can, you know, you can do that. So that'll work. Well. And I think another thing that a lot of people don't think about is

because we have had this happen in the middle of all the social technology we have you're really not as

alone as you could have been. So we have a lot of resources to reach out to talk to ask questions. And you can do it in private message, you can do it over email, you can do it on a Facebook post, whatever it is. And we met I went to a event last fall, where they talked about it was last fall last summer sometime where they were talking about abusive relationships. And I'm going to bring it up during this part because we're about shifting to family dynamics. And, you know, I'm married to a great guy. We've been in business together for seven years. I had my own business before that, but he's had his plumbing business for seven years. So we've worked together. So being home alone together hasn't really sunk into us. And he's part of the essential forces so it he probably won't be home as much as some of the other ones. But on the other side of it, there are women that are trapped at home.

home with their monster, there are children that are trapped at home with their monster. So my my point to all this is, is if you're a woman, and you're listening to this, and you're trapped in a situation like that, we are the women that are saying, you can reach out to us, we are the Oregon, saying you can reach out to us. We want you to get stronger. We want to help you get a plan together, we want to get you out of that situation. We will pull all of our resources together to help with that. But we have to know that's what you're involved in and what's what's going on. And we don't want to put you in a date a more dangerous situation while you're trying to get out of that situation. So we will help find ways to do that safely for you and everyone involved. So,

again, that's a little side note, but I feel it's important because when we start talking a lot down, you know, that's, I mean holidays is when domestic violence calls go up. It's just

Police statistics statistics see YouTube can be a professional speaker.

It is a real life statistic that that's when they go up. So it's it's something that I'm not hearing any of the media talk about or any of the police departments talk about. I'm hearing about the police departments being exposed to things and police forces dwindling because of all this. So therefore, it behooves us as warrior divas to do what we can and do our part and be that resource for women. So Alright, so we're going to talk about families you know, we're kind of almost empty nesters. Now, every time we think we're empty nester, one bounce back. I don't know what it is for

Allie and cannon and the twins live a little bit down the road but they were here yesterday and they and today doing laundry because their washer and dryers best. It's

so kicked them all out of the house before we got on the call tonight and then set myself

to a shop to do some what we call arts and crafts time. So

mainly I just need a girl time.

We all need Girl. Girl time we all get it.

How are you? How are you planning to balance the family time with your work time or with your own?

Your own sanity?

Like Janet hiding in a closet. No, no.

So who wants to go first on that one?

Don't everybody speak it? Well, I will.

And I don't really have I decided since today was my first like real day off in the quarantine and that I was gonna relax today and just enjoy the day with my family. And you know, we ran real quick to the salon. I grabbed all the essentials that I could do self care on myself. So when it's not podcasting

I'm gonna do some micro needling and you know things to make myself feel better and look better to, why not?

before you make before you make decisions, make sure we talk about the other procedures that we need to do because we need to put them in.

Okay? Put them in the calendar. That's where I was going with this is I'm going to kind of create, you know, a plan each day, I'm like, we're gonna work out we're gonna, all those things I'm not doing right now. That's what we're getting.

And I would really like to take the time, like even a family workout and you know, spend some more time doing yoga, which I haven't done in a really long time, but I enjoy.

So and I get to do more cooking because I'd actually like cooking for my family and things like that. So all of those are, I'm kind of excited. I told my my kids yesterday, I was like, Hey, guys, I'm gonna be home for like, at least three weeks, you know, probably. And my younger son was like, yeah, you know, he really misses me but my older one is

He's like, he could care less to be honest. He's like, I'm in my room playing video games with everyone else. So it's pretty much the same dynamic. I have a feeling that my,

my spouse will be probably quarantined as of Monday I'm thinking because he works in Dallas County. And they've, you know, done the whole, what is it, um, shelter you have to stay in your, in your house, basically. So, um, I have a feeling they'll be closed on Monday. So then he'll be home and we're not used to seeing each other all the time, even though I love him and adore him. And we're probably gonna have to keep our space social distancing to know.

Like you do your thing and go play watch your car shows and I'll go do my thing and work for a little bit. Because I plan on not stop working. I do have things in place for that. So maybe spend a few times a few hours a day working and a few few hours a day spending extra time with my family.

The new normal right the new normal Yeah. Yeah. Well Scott actually started working from home last week. So with me being immunocompromised he had got special permission to already work from home once this kind of started blowing up the week before so um, we've had a week now to adjust and so I have you know, my office downstairs, we set him up, his office is upstairs and with the door he can shut and

it's gone real well except, you know, the 10 year old who doesn't understand that you know, she's used to when Daddy's home he's played ad so he's fun dad. So he getting her to understand that daddy's actually working eight to five, Monday through Friday and and what those boundaries are

kinda look at I think it's been a harder adjustment on Avery than it actually has. Me and Scott to be honest with you, um, one thing I thought was funny in our world is trying to leave God outside if it's sunny we we've gone for walks, we walked three days last week, we went outside and walked, walked to the park, trying to let her play and be a kid. You know, everyone's gone home school crazy. And we just decided, you know, she's gonna learn if she's not missing anything. You know, we did a couple of things, but we just sort of let her be at home and learn how to FaceTime friends like this, this whole environments different for her and I think it's harder on a nine year old, who's used to that consistent schedule. If I get up I go to school.

I'm at school till this time and then I have my activities and then boom, it's like spring break, and then everything she does got canceled. So for us, I think it was just letting her have a week to just downshift and deal with that emotional impact without dumping. Now learn. Honor, you know, so I think this week will be an interesting week and how do we now sort of bring in to all this mix the homeschool thing and make sure she doesn't fall too behind? And I just don't intend on being too overbearing about it. And maybe I'm maybe I'm weird that way, but I figured she's ahead. She's smart. Let her just kind of enjoy what she can and do. I mean, do the things they're going to ask you to do but i'm not i'm just not I always said I was arts and crafts.

Mom, not school mom. So, you know, like who which one of us can even teach Common Core math. Let's just be honest about that. Like, I can't. So there's only gonna be so much as a mom, I can do anyway because I know. I'm not trained as an educator. So I feel like

you guys need to quit coughing I'm getting nervous now.

Far away.

We're social distance. We're good. All right. Yeah. Well, well, Stacy, what about your kids? You've got school aged kids as well. How are they have they hasn't even hit them yet that they don't have school. And yes, let me talk. You know, I have two sets of kids. So I have a kid that's 29 and 19. And then I have kids that are nine and eight. So and I'm still a mom to both sets. It's a kind of separate though, because the two the 29 and the 19 year old just moved in together in a tent.

To an apartment in Bedford, they really like it. And so like I've been helping them I was there yesterday still unboxing stuff. They've been there a month but they have some boxes that they still haven't unlocked. And one of them I will not say which one was waiting for mommy to come by and not the younger one to help him get his stuff on.

I mean I'm still momming them I'm still I'm telling them to stay home I brought some masks and some gloves and some Lysol to their apartment yesterday. It's two boys.

So having to be mom still mom them even though they're older without being overbearing, and they have been staying home though I'm so excited for them. Because usually they don't listen. And I I kind of taught them the things that they need to do for cleaning. And if they do have to go somewhere like you're not supposed, like even touching the thing when you're done.

Getting gas, you really shouldn't be touching that you need to put so that's why I bought brought them some gloves, throw the gloves away after you get your gas before you get in your car. So I have that situation. And then here at my house I have my two girls that are nine, about to be nine and eight and set I'm sorry, eight and seven right now.

They have for the entire week. They have been doing homeschool. But kind of haphazardly, you know. They've been doing prodigy and Adventure Time and ABC mouse. But starting tomorrow, they go to a charter school international leadership of Texas. They're actually going to be doing the zoom meetings and they're with their teachers. And we had to do all the technology today. They both they both their school was giving out Chromebooks to the students that don't already have them. We have Chromebooks. They we got them for cursive

missed last year. My husband's in it. He thought they needed to learn how to use a mouse. So he bought them Chromebooks. And so they're going to start their zoom meetings. I'm worried about my eight year old because she's dyslexic. And she really needs some extra care. But her dyslexic teacher is going to be on zoom meetings with her too. So I'm excited to see how it's gonna happen because I know it's a new normal for them, too. They have this charter school has 20 schools throughout Texas. So they're doing the zoom meetings with all the schools at the same time. I'm wondering how smooth it's going to do the first day we'll see.

And I'm still going to be doing some work also. I'm still going to be on my computer. I have an internship program that I'm working on for the Chamber of Commerce. And then recently, we still have right you can we have time to work on that missing. And then Angie and I are also we are on the leadership Alumni Association, the same

leadership class that misty is currently in. Angie and I have already been through the leadership program. And we are on this leadership, steering leadership alumni steering committee. So we're going to try to help put social media together helps steer our alumni helps steer our alumni, we can make sure that our alumni stay still engaged in the chamber after they've gone through leadership. We want our alumni to be leaders in the community. We want our alumni to be part of boards, board of directors in hcb area, and we want them to be the leader. So Angie and I are trying to figure out how to still work on that. A little foreign to them and and challenge them both a little bit.

And so I'm going to be working on that and then

I like I said, I don't know what I'm going to be doing here. busy. I don't I'm going to keep myself busy doing things

I'm not sure how it's gonna go. It's It's my mind is like, do I set up a whole plan of all of these art projects that we're going to get done? Do I cook like so many meals? I haven't decided which things I want to be busy doing. I know. I'm going to figure out how to be busy though. Oh, yeah, yeah, I think we all figure that out really easily, don't we? Yeah, yes. What about you, Misty?

Oh, how to how to figure out how to not be busy. Well, what about the kids? What are they doing and shifting through right now? How are they? How are they still on spring break. So they really are, and Burnsville has not figured out what they're doing yet. They're trying Monday, we're supposed to pick up Chromebooks for those who don't have access to social media or like tablets or internet and that type of thing. So we're we're just waiting for them to give us more direction.

Right now they're just having a free for all to be honest with you.

They're playing video games are eating all the snacks you know that a house in the home that have a 12 year old and a 17 year old boy and then a seven year old stepdaughter so she's here this weekend hanging out with us and that's really cool because normally we don't get to have her all weekend we only get to have our own Sundays and one one night during the week so this will be some extra time we can all spend with her too. Also, I just signed up enough to do the snap ology Lego daily challenge. You seen those but so he made the pirate ship today with his Lego so those are things trying to keep him busy, but they're bored already. I think. Yeah. Well Janet, you're kind of like me, you you've kind of moved on from the little kids at home but you also have grandkids that are around and I know I know Alyssa was doing homeschooling so but Alyssa is also expecting to

So that's how I'm a baby in about eight weeks. Yeah, so you're gonna be probably doing some pitch hitting won't Yeah.

So yeah, it's it's that new that grandma role which I have adult children, that's still the mean, which I can totally relate to.

which is way, way more than I thought it would ever be. It's kind of interesting, but I will say it's just a blessing to have grandkids and

we're expecting a new baby boy and I've been able to hear somebody come in here now that I'm talking about these grandkids. And I'm surprised they haven't come in yet. Honestly, I am too hot. And so I don't know. We're finding new things to do. I'm, I'm stealing all the ideas on Facebook and people are putting so many amazing ideas out there. We're doing all that we're just praying for some warm weather. So we can kind of get outside here in Kansas. It's still really cold.

We have one nice day and then we have three or four bad days. So I'm waiting for that. But

I think getting outside helps you guys. We're not we can get outside, we're allowed to go outside. It's like you can't get outside. I think sort of everybody doing the electronics, take a walk, do something get outside, it's healthy and mentally. And I know one of the small towns here, they were putting the bear the stuffed bears in the windows so that people could go around and find the bears the little kids, find the bears. But find something to do, you know, go on a scavenger hunt, and give them a list of things to go outside. outside. Is that your best bet for a while even if it's cold go outside. I mean, that's, we've missed having our kids outside, they're in school all day. You know, they go do things all day. Now you have an opportunity to kind of reset, like kimsey word, you know, reset, it was a reset, that we use that restart. We said, yeah.

Yeah, we had to reset after 911 and we survived all that economically. And we you know, we lost a

A lot of stuff after 911 My husband was a pilot that got, you know, furloughed and, you know, this too will all pass but go outside. I mean, family wise, mentally wise, you know, do something outside and you know, the sunshine is good for you the virus dies at 180 degrees I don't know. Right? It's vitamin D and vitamin C are anti viral and so mentally get out some put it on your list to go outside every day and take a walk, do what you have to do, but get them outside. I think it's important. Well, part of the arts and crafts Mike's doing is I bought a boat last summer that's my boat. It's not his boat. It's my boat. It's it can be ours but it's my boat.

And so he was just doing some of the last minute touches to make sure it was boat ready because that's one thing we can do. We can go out on the lake we can go in that's socially distances you from quite a few people just being out on the lake.

One of the other things that

I'm glad you brought up the 911 thing because I've been thinking a lot about that this week. You know, there's a our kids Janet's and my kids and they see you've got one up there too. They were born.

And they were in school when 911 happened, you know, so they, Janet and I have children that serve in our country and And me too. I'm a part of a military moms group that has paratroopers that are coming back to the states that are going straight into quarantine. They're not getting the big welcome home. They're not getting all of the

pomp and circumstance that goes on with that they're going here's a tent and they're like, I just came from a tent.

So

the ones that go through the tent, they they're, they're putting them into isolation, barracks and things like that. But

you know, Cody, my son is supposed

To be leaving the country at some point this week, I was supposed to be in Orlando from Friday until this following this coming Friday, from last Friday till this coming Friday. And then I was going over to spend time with Cody at his duty station before he left the country for six months. And so I had to change tickets. And as I'm changing the tickets, I'm already having the emotions well up about 911. I came out of nowhere. And when the when the planes stopped flying, I didn't sleep for those three days. Because I was I've grown up in ulis. I'm so used to hearing the planes fly, that when the planes weren't flying, it was eerily deafening to me. Yeah, so when the first pilot took off from DFW Airport, I was one of them out there with the guy that had the big American flag and we were listening to the air traffic controllers, talk to the pilots and send them off.

And, and so

we knew when that happened that our world was forever changed. And we're already we've we immediately saw changes in how security was done and how things were handled security on the cockpit doors, TSA, all of that immediately changed. And one of my friends that's a writer and manages a lot of freelance writers for Thomas Nelson publishing, put out a suggestion the other day to start making notes of the things that you see that may be changing.

And I thought that was a really good thing. So in the industry, you're in, in the in your child's life, what was something that was so normal, a week, a month last year, that is either not going to be around or something abnormal. Moving forward, we've been talking about putting Chromebooks and students hands in every student having a laptop or a tablet for years.

And it takes a crisis like this to realize that we should have stopped talking about it and just done it.

You know, so what does that look like? What are some of the things? I'm going to throw out? One of the things that I thought that I've already thought of with universal pushing movies straight to DVD, I mean, not DVD but DVR, straight to the streaming services, there may not be a major need for theaters anymore. Big Box theaters, wow. At least a drastically reduced number of them. So what's something that you can look at that you're looking at now and you can start thinking maybe it's going to shift medical supplies. Right now China makes most of our medical supplies and I was told by someone who their company, she's a salesperson for the company that that supplies hospitals. And before like, she was telling me

Probably, I don't know, a month and a half two months ago. Make sure you buy all the needles that you're going to need for the next year by all the gloves you're going to need for the next year. She said, we're not even telling our hospitals this yet. But there's one ship coming from China right now full of medical supplies, and that's the last one for a while. She said it, it's going to be changed for an entire year. And because they're not working, they're not able to work. They're not making medical supplies. And so now we see here, we are incredibly dependent on China. medical supplies also they they do a lot of our medication too. They do a lot of our

What is it called? The one that is not the brand name. Generic Jay did a lot of our generics. And

we might run out of certain medications because they do a lot of our generics. They make most of our Tylenol

Not the time, like the generic Tylenol, they make most of our generic generic Tylenol. So what I see 85% of her antibiotics, right? So like, we change that, hopefully we change it, we learned the hard lesson and we change it now, well, then I was thinking ramp up, you know, we just ramp up and we do what we do. You know, hopefully that's gonna happen.

Well, and we the, the other issue is, are we willing to pay more for it, because the labor in China is much cheaper. And if we make it here, we're going to have to pay our workers enough. So that we can, it will have to pay a little bit more for it because we have to pay our workers so that they can live in the United States. So that's an issue.

But I think that we were as a country, we're going to have to look at all the things that were dependent on other countries, and we're going to have to see what we can do to not have this happen to us again.

Yeah, Misty Kim. What do y'all have to say?

Something that Scott and I were talking about is how,

like we had never done online grocery shopping. Like you know, I buy stuff from Amazon but I'm talking about like, ordering your food from like imperfect foods calm or like ordering all your meat from Purdue farms.com like changing the way you grocery shop like we have had, cuz I'm immunocompromised and it's not good for us to get out at all. I'm in that super, super crazy high risk group. So we've been having delivery, delivering all our groceries and like today, we got an email from one service saying that they've had to suspend new members because they're so overloaded right now with new people and I'm thinking wow, this this could come

pletely change the grocery store industry because we're so used to going out to the grocery store to get stuff and how many of us will come to realize that we like having stuff delivered on Friday because I go so far, I think it's great.

It's not much more money than you know, going to the grocery store. And it's super convenient to order your groceries over three days, and then wham, it shows up at your door. So that was one thing we really thought about how this could really just be a societal change of just like people ordering groceries online, and then maybe there won't be a storefront on every corner the way you see now.

Yeah, I think Walmart pickup is the best thing ever invented. Yeah, I love it. Well, like even before, if you haven't done that you need to start. No way. Don't

Well in our neighborhood, we live in a older established neighborhood. And it was built when the in the 60s when people were coming in building the airport here, so a lot of pilots and air traffic controllers and things live in our neighborhood. And on our street. There's like three of us that are new newly to the neighborhood. The rest are all original homeowners. So it's it's an older generation and older demographic. And they've kind of gotten into the Facebook group and mastered that Facebook group but some of them are starting to get out there and master that online ordering. It's challenging them to be technology savvy right now. But the beautiful part is is those that are younger in the neighborhood that are going to the stores will say, I'm going to go to the store on Friday. If you have a pickup, put my name down, I'll pick it up for you still keeping some of our older neighborhood neighbors from going out into getting getting out and

Not being where they don't need to be so it's really interesting then you talked about the bear thing the other day while ago we did the Shamrock challenge in our neighborhood for a scavenger hunt. And then we we started seeing the kids doing the chalk art out on the on the driveways sending positive messages to people. So you know, it's it's finding different things. Missy What do you think about you anything you can think of that shifting or changing that?

Well, I see to like two sides of it, you know, you see the people that are kind of going crazy and taking advantage of the situation but then I also see more people being kind and you know, thinking of others before themselves and like the you know, compromised or the older people that they can they can help them you know, and even yesterday I had made a video on Facebook just letting everybody know I had to close down and you know that we'll be back and and you know

Kind of reassuring them, but I got more reassurance for myself is like yes, you will be back and you're going to be stronger than ever. So just that support of people is just pretty amazing. I really have found that and I think it was always there but people are so busy. Yeah, that we don't take the time to share that stuff. So good, positive, that's a good positive thing. You know, if we just come back together, we were divided in a nation, maybe we'll come back together a little bit more. Seems like in times of crisis, that's what we do. Right? And I'm just do you remember after 911? After how, one day, the next day everyone had a flag out? Right? Everyone had a flag out, come together. Everyone was coming together. And maybe that's what is gonna happen right now. Because I'm seeing a lot of people want to do things for others more than ever.

Well, and we're seeing we're seeing bipartisanship.

up like we've never seen since 99. I mean, we're seeing a lot of things. They may not agree on a lot of the other things still, but they're putting that to the side, they're pushing all that to the side to be able to take care of a nation right now. And the the beautiful part is what I'm seeing on social media is, like you said, people are sharing positive encouraging messages to people.

Especially when they see that they've got the resiliency to come back. You know, there's, there's, there's a few people that I know of that have gotten on Facebook and light of messages of what's happening in their area and stuff. And they're blasting you know, and you can tell they're angry and they're bitter and they're in there getting all it'll be okay or it's happening to everybody. You know, you're not in this alone and they're they're getting better back. It's, I guess the beauty

thing I want to remind people is in times of crisis is when your squeeze I can't remember if john said or one of the other people said that the virtual thing that I shared with you all today, those sessions with john, he allowed us to share publicly. But behind that we've got all the other trainers that are part of the organization doing live videos with us all day long for the next three days. So I've been watching a bunch of videos live this week. But one of the things I said is when you're squeezed in a time of crisis, what's inside of you is going to come out and so you're getting on and good or bad. Yeah, good or bad. It's coming out. And the What are you made of? Are you made of a I'm defeated? This happened to me mentality Are you made of a you know, pull your bootstraps up Rosie the Riveter we can do it type mentality. And, you know, I'm a Rosie the Riveter lover. So yeah.

You know, I'm one of those that I don't think this happens to us. I think we find ways to reinvent ourselves in and reestablish ourselves and we find times during this time to, to be leaders in that dark world we shine that light, we say, you know, you may not feel like you've got a safe place to go. I've got a wing right here. You can take shelter here and bit here a little bit. I'm going to push you out of this nest because you are going to fly even if you have to grow your wings on the way down. You are going to fly you know. And

that's, that's what I get from the strong women. I surround myself and all four of you are the strong women I've surrounded myself. Janet has said it to me before there was tell somebody, what was it

a while back. The when the twins were born, they just turned what six, so six years ago, I was kinda in the middle of it. I was Sleepless in Seattle or Bedford or her

Wherever I was, I was, you know, brain numb. And I think Kim might be able to relate to this a little bit to it. I didn't know enough to reach out and ask for help at that time, because I was just doing what was in front of me. Yeah. And Janet said, you know, I've told she told me flat, because I've told you before, and I'll tell you again, all you have to do is ask for help, and help will be there.

But I was still in my own mind of will these people relying on me, so I have to be the stopping point. I'm not the stopping point. I'm a flow through point. Yeah, that's good. We have to be reminded that we are a flow through point of the Holy Spirit of our love of what we fill ourselves with so that we can flow out to those that we are feeding and and loving and nurturing. And we can't nurture something if we are not in a nurturing mindset.

It's so I used to imagine that

A bunch of people that walk around those little squeezy stress balls, eyes and the ears pop. Like everybody is this Yeah.

Yeah, you know, even me, I know I I've touched him with cam quite a bit right when she first got home I went and spent days there and stuff like that. But then even this week I went, Oh my god, it's been a week since we've texted What is going on?

Why has she not reached out to me? Is everything okay? And her well, why haven't we gone to?

Lee? I'm like, Okay, first off, am I being a bad friend? Am I this? Yeah. But I have to put all those negative things are behind and not say Well, I didn't talk to her this past week. She's probably mad at me because then those mental games will play and then you won't reach out and then you're emotionally distancing and isolating. And they're over there. Just going. No, thanks. It's been good. I was wondering where you're at. I just knew you'd circle around when you weren't busy again. And I was here like, Oh, well.

How many I know I'm not the only one that has ever done this? Because I have heard other women tell me this. So, um, you know, as we're talking through some of the some of these, you know, I want to start looking at what are some of the best you have seen in people through this. This scenario, we talked a little bit about how our jobs are changing through all of this already. But

you know, what, what are some of the best the most positive things that you've seen in people? Through this? We were What was it? Stacy, we were on a call the other day for the leadership alumni. And, you know, we've got some people on our steering committee who were on the front lines of this and they're just exhausted, right? When they're being told and I'm not saying who they are, where they're from, but when they're being told to pack a bag to bring to work because they don't know if they'll be able to go home. Right. You know,

And this is just the beginning of what we're expecting to be a bigger surge and you know, so

you know, what are some ways that you could you see positive coming out of it? I know there's other people that are what is it one groups donating every you can go on and put your beer order in. But if you put throw in an extra beer, a four pack or a six pack to your order and donate it to the Fort Bragg soldiers that are coming.

That's hilarious. I'm like, okay, that's funny. But you know, what, what are some? What are some of the other things that you you're seeing and hearing? One of the one of the things that I thought was awesome, is we talked about it earlier is when our leadership htb, pivoted, and decided that they wanted to start a group to help the HIV community by posting the things that are most needed. And nobody told them they had to do that. Nobody told them that since their event was called

closed down that they had to pivot, they just made a choice. And that's what happens whenever you start building leaders

is they lead and that's what they did. So the first thing that I did when I was probably the seventh person invited in the group, and if you guys don't know, I am the, the sponsor of that group. So yes, I am the sponsor of leadership. So she's, she's a black, so I'm like, no, no. So I'm like, when I when I look at it, when I see them doing such great things, I get very excited because I'm invested into it right now. I get so excited about creating leaders and when whenever I get to help, and this is what they decide to do, I'm excited. So I was like, almost in tears, like, Oh, my God, look what, look what they're doing. And I immediately started texting. Rochelle Ross, who is the steering committee leader and said, Oh my god, do you see what they're doing? Like, this is great. Do you see

What your Do you see what your what your teaching is making happen in our community? So that that's one of the biggest things that I've seen. And, you know, the last time I looked, I don't know how many people you have in the group now, but there was almost 1000 people in the group when I was blessed. Let me check Where's like under there was like, yeah, there was one I was looking it up 1.4. Okay, so what I mean, that's awesome. All of these people that all live in the HDB area, are able to look and they haven't categorized it into sections. So you can see restaurants you can see this you can see where you can get food, if you don't have food. You can see what food pantries are still are still giving you food. I mean, I just thought that that was so awesome. So that was one of the great things and if you look at the feeds inside the group, people that know nothing of what hcb leadership is are talking discussing. I invited one of my clients to the group who's been living in hers for like 30 years and she was very

She posted something and she she got into message. Did you see how great my posts and to see all the people that were? So I mean, it's bringing people together. I thought that that was really awesome. And then and then I also see, like everyone is really trying to go to these mom and pop restaurants and buy food to go local. So I really love that I'm doing it also. But I think that that's great. Those are the things that I've noticed. Yeah. Here's another thing. You know, there's a lot of us who have diabetes, there's a lot of us who have high blood pressure. There's a lot of us who have asthma, those underlying health conditions that make getting the corona virus, you know, more dangerous for, you know, it's going to be more than a cold it could go wonky real quick. So what

I've seen is just even after two months of friends and church ladies and just people rallying around my family through the heart stuff you know we didn't want for a meal for about eight weeks. Um we had more food and we knew what to do with we had friends cleaning our house take down our Christmas decorations. I mean you name it it was we had handyman come over and help Scott with cocking a tub. I mean, just you name it, it was done. And those same people now who know that I'm immunocompromised are texting me. Hey, I'm going to Costco. Hey, I have a friend run into Sam's Can I drop food off at your front door. So I just think seeing how humans are so generous.

And kind and sweet and people are sending me, you know, we're still sending you extra prayers during this time. Just even that is just so touching and and you know, it just got me thinking, How can I reach out no knowing I'm stuck at home so now I'm with food delivery service. I've texted my neighbors and I'm like, Hey, we're having food delivered on Friday. I'm placing an order this day. Do you guys need me to order you guys anything so trying to help in the way I can. But just if you're able and be mindful of your friends who might be having to isolate more that just even going to a grocery store puts them at risk, right? Because I can't really leave the house at this point then, you know, my husband is stuck and because if he

goes out and gets it and brings it in. So being mindful of the immuno compromised and how just if you're going to the store check in,

or if a neighbor has run out of toilet paper or needs eggs, be willing to go put it at their front door, just be mindful of that stuff. And I've just seen it in spades more than I can even say, we have felt so blessed and just seeing God's goodness through human beings in such ways I never expected over these last couple of months.

Well, and that goes back to those boxes that you're putting out to missing because you know, there's some people that may never ask for help or want to go to a place and get help but that they can go open that box nonchalantly get out what they need are, you know, I had somebody what say, Well, I only had some beans. So I went and put the beans in the box and I grabbed the the whatever

Else it was that they needed, you know, and I was like, well, that's awesome that that what you needed was in that box, you know, and maybe somebody else needed those beans, you know. So finding a way to love on people where they're at, you know, with whatever skills or talents you have.

Janet, I'm gonna come to you next, but I'm going to preface it with this because on Monday, we were hearing a lot of people, Mike's one of Mike's friends from high school took one of those blue rolls of paper towels, and he is he makes knives, homemade knives. And so he cut one of those rolls in half and he goes, look, I'm making toilet paper, you know? And Mike's like, Yeah, go ahead and do that. Because, you know, once they start flushing that down the drains it's gonna stop up there drains, make sure you share, share my, my number.

He is helping your husband's business.

his money goes, Yeah, I'm probably gonna get sued for it. And Mike's like, you

Yeah but I'll make the money you know Yeah, I got online and I did a social media post on them empty plumbing site that said you know, if it's not p or TP it doesn't go down the toilet don't flush and you know not even clean next not sanitary items nothing but food p or TP down the drain right now and like later that day or the next day Janet's city, was it your city or was it now, the city

was shut down. Because so many had been flushing things because it couldn't find toilet paper. They're just using what they could get missing, who was pointed out, that's when the changes will get like you can't flush toilet paper. I mean just to look for people right? That may be a great American awakening. Right? Well and Missy and Nate Mrs. Another person that's part of our team and her husband a few months last summer that

Had a porta potty issue on the base that they live in. They're at the War College in Carlisle, Pennsylvania, right? And so there was a huge water outage on base. So no drinking, no bathing, no peeing, no nothing you had they they put porta potties out on the lawns of like, the high commanders. They're all base, too. And so everybody knew you were doing your business, right. So Nate went out and got these things called clear rears, their

rears, they make toilet a bad day. And so he does a whole visit. They have this whole video they've done on it, they've done it where they open the box because the box has been sitting in his office for months, he finally told his wife, it's time to open the box, and they do this whole big reveal on there. Then he shows installing it and all of that and he does a great Billy Mays on the social commercial about clear rear

So we'll share that in the warrior divas group just for a good button and laugh. But,

you know,

I think what we're starting to see is people's personalities shine a little more to they're not getting so serious about things on line, when they're getting on there sharing because they want to be a light. They're wanting to inspire they're wanting to encourage. And so, like, Janet gets on, and she shares things, and she has a real evolution group. And she has just written a devotional as well. So I don't know, did you do that while you were isolated? Or did you do that before you're isolated?

Oh, I can't hear you.

Sorry, I'd gone to Israel and came back and it was kind of my homage to my trip to Israel. And so that was a few years back, I wrote it. Okay, so, the last day of Jesus's life and if anybody wants it, just let me have your email. It has all the scriptures across from

References have beautiful pictures, and it's for free. So if you want one, let me know it's a good Bible say that you can sit and actually go through Lent. Like the last week, maybe we're not going to be in church. So it would be a good little state of your family and our group, maybe online? I don't know. But yeah, it's um, it's well written if I do say so much.

But you know, Kim, and I've been talking about doing more writing and more centralized writing as well and maybe blocking off time each week that we're just gonna sit right. And I know, y'all could write a business book, you could write a inspirational book, you could write another devotional, you could write whatever you want to write, if even if you're not gonna write it, then record it, sit with a recorder and record some of your thoughts. This is a great time when you're slowing down to press in to those projects like that, too. Mm hmm. Why are you looking at me that way, Stacy?

Because I have a book that is 100%. Like, it is completely

outlined, like perfectly outlined from chapter two sub chapter two sub sub chapter. I have part of it written. So, but I haven't been working on it, and I should just work on it. Yeah. I found a way for you to be busy. Right there you go. There you go.

This This was the purpose of this, of this podcast was to figure out how Stacy could stay busy. Well, and and you know, I know a great graphic designer that could help you with the book cover and they can help you out with the book launch and oh, yeah, no, that's what that's what David's impact is all about.

So that's the other part is, you know, like Janet said, she's written this devotional and everything and everything that Janet writes is are

And does has been golden for me. So that's just my, my humble brag on her. But

you know, one of the things I also talked about at the beginning, before we got on the air was this is a time Janet asked what I wanted to do with this show what what was our purpose of doing this show today. And I try and ask myself, that with every show we do is I want to be a light, I want to be a beacon. I want to spread hope. I think we can turn on the TV and we can bench out in front of How to Get Away with Murder or scandal if we want to. Or we can press in and see what's on the other side of this force. We can go ahead and start getting getting glimpses of that now. And

so there are a variety of different ways we want to help do that using this group, connecting with other groups like like the one that that

misty has and and Janet has and be able to cross pollinate a little bit some of our strengths with them their strengths with us and really show what women joining arms together can do. And, you know,

that meme that's out there that says are you know, this the generation of World War Two, you know, took the battlefield and did all this stuff lost hundreds of thousands of people on the battlefield blah, blah, blah. you're asked to sit at home on your couch. Yeah, we can do this. Right. Right. It's what are we going to be envisioning and pressing through and desiring even when our circumstances around us right now don't look ideal for what we want to birth?

You know, I think it'll give us new ideas of things to birth like, right, because we have to get creative now. to think outside the box. Exactly. And yeah,

Ali's best friend girl used to work for me she's pregnant right now do any day now. She's like, kind of fearful of going to the hospital right now. Can you blame her? But, but as as I've been watching her go through this, you know, she's, she's like, okay, I've tried spicy food, I've tried walking, I've tried all these things to get this baby out. You know, we've all done it trying to oh my gosh, where these contractions. Alright, they're two minutes apart, you get to the hospital now they're irregular.

And so all these things are going on with her and her body right now. Same things going on for us. So this is this is my little spiritual lesson and, and those that want to feed off of it can. There's been several teachings I've heard about, you know, the farmers. They plow their fields for seven years and they will give it a year of rest. In the Bible, we're told to work six days.

Take the seventh day for rest.

You know, we have become such an instant gratitude busy society that we never slow down. What if this was God's way of putting us on rest?

Yeah.

And what we have come to realize is when you take that time to rest to slow down, you re energize, so that you can restart stronger and more powerful than ever before. It clears the slate for you.

It sets you up for greater success. Brady Boyd had the book addicted to busy. I love that book. I've read it. I've listened to it. I've read it again. And I need to read it. It's a really good book. And it's about

providing that margin. It was from that book that we made sure that my kids even if they were in sports, even

They were in activities that we had one day a week that we chose that there was nothing planned. No matter how busy our schedules were, there was nothing planned on that day. That was their day to be still that was no friends coming over that was them not going to friends houses, that was not, you know, going out and playing sports tournaments and all that stuff we would tell we would tell the baseball coaches, Cody can play on Saturday, or he can play on Sunday, but he can't play on both. You know, and we took that time seriously. Because we also knew that he was better prepared for learning for the next week if he had that time to recharge.

And so, Kim, what do you got on that? Well, I was just also thinking, you know, that all of this time on our hands, also is sometimes not so good because it's also time

I'm alone with our thoughts and sometimes our thoughts are toxic and or their attacks of the enemy you know, things we are wrestling with. So whether it's fear and doubt and dread or worry, you know, from financial worry to fear of dying Am I gonna get this or even just the anxiety of having to be around people who get on your nerves day to day out with no break or is it

gonna have a job when this is all over or I'm not real happy with myself and I can't go to church and get filled up and

you know, all these things are probably swirling around and, you know, let's just face it. This isn't fair. The Corona virus totally sucks. This just sucks and and you might be mad about it. And that's

would be perfectly okay and, but I am thinking about how you know we can also I can do biblical counseling on the phone, you know people can call, you know, reach out don't stay isolated in your head, you know, if you are having those toxic thoughts, um, reach out because, you know, we will can help you replace the toxic wise with the truth of God and help you, you know, focus your thoughts in the right directions that gives you hope and a future and a purpose. Because, you know, at the end of the day through all of this God has great plans for each one of us and he says that he plans to prosper and not harm us. So even though there's a virus out there right now, he doesn't lie he loves within unfailing love. And so, if I'm going through a moment because I

I had the moment I'm going to settle back to plans to prosper Kim and not harm her, you know, and so I think that's important right now is is, you know, as these things are swirling, if you can't get out of that, you know, reach out, I'm here. He's here. We're all here. But you know, I can biblical counsel on the phone does as easy as I can sit in a Starbucks, So reach out.

Right.

Janet, you got something to add to that?

Oh, well.

We're all going to discover a new normal, right? We talked about that earlier, but

I just I'm a positivity, that's my number one strength. So

I put it out there. You could send me a message. I'll talk to anyone on the phone, I'll call back but, um, I just think you're gonna find new things about yourself that you didn't

As you shouldn't be afraid, you know, we've I've pushed the 60. So I can tell you that you're going to have ups and downs in this life, you're going to have challenges and you're going to get through it, you're either going to get through the challenge, or you're going to go home to the Lord. Those are your choices. And so there's no in between there, right? Any challenge I've ever had health wise, money, whatever you get through it, or you go home to be with your maker. That's it. And there's really no no option for failure right now. But I want to say one thing. If you want to binge TV watch for a while, that's okay. So don't feel like you have to be writing a book, are you productive? Don't put that don't put those thoughts in your head, right? The Holy Spirit's gonna give you time. He's giving all of us time to just vege. Right. This is a wake up call for all of us to kind of reconnect what's important and what's what's a priority in our lives. And, and so, you know, have a little fun. Don't Don't be so serious. That's it.

Everything and

I don't know, I just think it's going to be a great time. You don't have to, if you want to watch TV or on eat popcorn and drink wine, that's okay, too.

But also he has a purpose. He has a purpose for each and every one of us even in this crisis. So, until you take your last breath, you have something to offer. And I don't care what age who you are what you are, and you have something to offer. And so if it's just holding someone's grandkid for a while, or they'll, you know, I'm just I'm you. There's a million things you can do right now. But self awareness, I was reading the prodigal son the other day, this is kind of interesting. And the prodigal son was down and out, right, he's gone and he's in the middle of a pig pen. And then the line says, and he came to himself What a great line, because that's when the change happened, right? He came to himself, he realized where he was and and he realized it was something better to do. And so you know, eat your popcorn bed. Why?

To me, it's okay. don't hear us say that you can't do that. But also if the Lord calls you to do something, write a book or, or to write. I mean, look at all the things that were done in.

Who is it that wrote Martin Luther wrote in 90 days, he was in isolation for 90 days, he wrote, he interpreted the whole Bible from you know, to German. And you know, there's things you can do that God's gonna call you to do, that are gonna be mighty and tiny. And it's all going to be good. It's gonna be okay. It really is, and then we're gonna go home, right, and that's okay, too. Well, I got, I got tickled Lucy Mitchell, who was on the show a couple of weeks ago, had a post up the other day, and it said, simmer down, Karen, you know, Karen's gotten a bad rap on all the Facebook memes here lately. But it says simmer down Karen there's no Award for Best corn teen mom.

True. So there is there are, you know, my biggest thing for each and every

One of us has kind of what a cross between what Kim just said. And Janet just said is, there will be times that you will have things creep up, it is human nature that you will have things creep up. We have things creep up all the time I have, you know, I have to tell myself that I'm smart enough, I'm good enough and Gosh, darn it people like me quite often or you know, I am smart, I am kind I am beautiful. You know, I there are days that I have to tell myself that because my belief system is lacking for that day. But on the other side of it.

I also know that there's a whole crew of us here that can do that whisper that into each other's ears quite often, too when we when we're having a hard time hearing it from my own lips, having a hard time believing it for ourselves. And I just want us to continue doing that. In this season that we're in I just say one thing. Yeah. And, you know, you can't go to church, but by golly

You're gonna have some extra time. You can get the word right. You can get in the word and there's no more important place to be right now I'm studying Jude right now and it talks about is talking about the and godly and

some endtime stuff and I'm thinking, are you gonna be a godly person or ungodly person in this time and it's dark. And you know being in the world and knowing what is godly and what's godly is super important right now and you have time to do it. No excuses. I will. I will put that on you. I will put that on you. You will get in the word, whatever it's time to also like shop for churches, like go online. There's many calls available, pastors everywhere posts are not great. And now's a great time to go. Listen to all kinds of pastors in your town and check out some new places and see if there's somewhere new you want to go to or just get a different perspective. You know,

The same church listening to the same messages from the same pastor. And while that's great to have your community I also think sometimes it's great to listen to other pastors and other perspectives. And I think this is kind of a real interesting time to do that. Yeah. Well, I thought it was really important. Somebody asked me the other day at the radio station did I think that was going to this was gonna hurt churches. I said, it may hurt they're giving it may, because people are not there. They're not experiencing that. It may hurt their giving, I said, but it'll also open up a lot of participation in churches that have not had participation before us that the ones that are on TV will probably fare better than the ones that are not and he goes, why do you think that I said, on Sunday morning. Have you ever flipped through Sunday morning TV you woke up you turn the TV on you flipped on and oh, Joel olsteen on you're not really watching it. You really weren't intending to watch Phil See, but all of a sudden you've sat and watched 30 minutes to Joel

See, you know, it happens or Robert Jeffries or you know, any, you know, Crystal Cathedral, you know, you turn it on and you go, Oh, I wasn't intending to watch this I was looking for cartoons, but or fixer upper and I fixing up my house I looked at fixing up my heart and my soul for a little bit, you know. So

that's why last week we shared the churches, you know, share your churches that are having online church, one of the local churches here, their head pastor just sent out a letter today letting everybody know that he's moving to a different church, you know, so when they come back to the church and are able to meet again, it'll be a whole different dynamic than in that church than what it is when everybody last met together. Oh, wow. It's it's gonna be really crazy and what it does to a lot of different people. But, you know, you think back two weeks ago though, it's kind of crazy. I was thinking to just two weeks ago, you

Two weeks ago. Yeah. Did you think it was the last time you were gonna walk out of your church? Right?

No, well, or when the kids walked out of school did they think that was gonna be their last time to walk out of school for the year? The ones that are seniors? You know, that might be the last time I see a lot of their friends. So there's a lot going on right now, you know, and my biggest thing is, is yes, it's alright to binge watch shows. I did it Mike and I did it the other day. He does that in and out but it was a show I'd never seen before and I don't know how many episodes we watched of it. I hadn't slowed down in a while. So we just watched that was that. Yeah, I would like to know your attention.

Was it it was either the How To Get Away with Murder or the scandal one or the other. Okay, but we, I like I like those. I like watching West Wing, things like that because I like the intelligence. The West Wing is cool. Yeah, I watch blistering white.

West Wing right before three times fast. Yeah, I watched I watched it on DVD. Yeah, I watched it on that was before the Netflix thing happened. I watched it a long time ago well I watched it leading up to the 2016 election and was watching the final episodes of it the night of the election so that people watching that and seeing how much hadn't really changed in Washington over 20 years. Like you're in the know right? So just watching you know, there will be times I'll go on and watch you know, friends or their ranch or some documentary or whatever, but you know, I was feeling a little scandalous the other day so I was scared

but the other part of it is I started feeling something creep up that I hadn't felt since my kids were little and I when my kids were little I used to watch those Danielle still read those Danielle still books, right? I mean, I could finish a book in a day I was that dedicated to reading it.

Yes, with little children at my feet, I could finish a book in a day. And I started watching this the other night and realizing how hooked in and addicted I was getting to other people's lives, and I wasn't living my own. So I told Mike, I said, I'm going to have to go back to my guideline for the day and you'll still books for me, because this is what supplies for me and go, Okay, I've got to get these things done before I can sit and watch an episode of this or three.

But no more than three because Netflix tells me you know, it's time to turn the TV off now.

So, you know, finding those things to be healthy. We talked about you know, it's okay to get down and be upset and, you know, Kevin, I've talked about this a lot here lately. It's alright to say this sucks, you know? Because right now what has happened has sucked.

Don't don't build a mansion there. Yeah. Yeah. Make make sure that you have

The tools and the resources, your friendships, your mental health, all of that in line to be able to get you out of that rut to get you going that reason why you want to continue moving on so Alright, we're about to wrap up. So I want to Stacy I'm going to start with you then go to misty Kim and Janet. And then I want y'all to just leave us off with one positive thought for people as we go into this week and, and what's one on a quote a verse a thought, a cheer a dance, whatever you want all donate. Don't call me on that. No. While honestly the damn. No.

Hold on, hold on.

Okay, I wanted to say while I'm while I'm sitting here listening to you guys.

Kim has just had like one of the most devastating experiences that she's had in her lifetime. She's been stuck in her house since January and she

sitting here talking about how she wants to help others. And it just makes me so happy that she lives on this earth and is willing to be on the phone because she can't live her house, talking about the Bible, and living God. So that's, that's what I this whole podcast. This is what I've been thinking about how she has such a positive attitude about life. And out of all of us, she has been dealt the hardest blows recently and look at how she is. So thank you, Kim, for making me feel better about myself and feel like that I can keep moving forward. Yeah, that's sweet. Thank you. You're welcome.

All right. Here's my dance. And here's just what came to mind. I've been reading this book called outwitting the devil, and made me think about second to me on seventh, Second Timothy one seven, and for God, maybe

Not a spirit of fear but of power and love and sound. So that's what kind of that's been my like life first and always has helped me kind of grounded. Like Don't let the fear get to you because, you know, it is scary a little bit. It can be, but um, that's kind of what that kind of holds me together right now.

Very good.

Kim, how about you?

Um, you know, there when we, when I got married are saying on our invitation and everything was nothing is worth more than this day. And that's really relevant in these days that we're living at to, you know, shift your mind to, you know, being present with your kids, your husband, what are some things in your house that you've been wanting to get done that have been being put off and put off and put off you know, clean out that closet or you know, go

And clean out your freezer freezer burn meat, you know, made room for new I fully believe that the Lord gave me that word restart wasn't just for me. I think we're all in a restart of sorts and it's gonna look different in everybody's lives, but just making every single day right now, be present, be mindful, be intentional, and and just be optimistic that God's got a great plan for you to prosper and not harm you. I I just firmly believe that I I shouldn't be here if the devil had had his way. You know, I had a massive snip and

found out I had a heart defect. And every single one of my arteries was blocked 85 to 98%. I am a living, breathing miracle. And now I'm going through this and you know what?

It's okay. It's okay. And we're all going to be okay. So nothing means more than this day.

Oh, awesome. Awesome. Love that. All right, Janet. Oh, Lord, help me.

I think I'll just dance. No, I'm kidding.

And you know, this is a perfect gift. It's a perfect gift and a perfect time. And we all were made for a time such as this and the beginning of the year. In my journal I wrote and heard that the Lord said it was going to be an interesting year. Those were my words. I was like, Lord, interesting. Okay. I interestings good. And so here we are, it's interesting. But everything is a gift. You know, it's a good gift. And like you said, Kim, I'm so proud of you. By the way, you're really doing well so proud of you. And that needs to be said you're doing awesome.

Today is a good gift. You know, tomorrow will be a good gift then if the Lord takes you

home tomorrow, then he takes you home. But until then I keep saying, you know, it's a gift and all good things come from him and let's let's live it that way. Let's just put it out there and live it that way. If you need something, and I can do it, you need to ask. That's all.

Well, thank you all for coming on today. You know, my biggest desire every week when I do a show is to make sure that people get to meet other amazing women that are building up our army of Destin inspired victorious accountable sisters, you know, that's what divas stands for in that we are joined at the hip with each other, and that we are constantly being women of value adding value to other women. And it is my pleasure. It is my honor to have shared the airwaves with you tonight and I am so excited to get this released out there to even more masses to hear the discussion so they can be encouraged and inspired. So thank You again for being on the show and Until next week, this is warrior divas.

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