Ep 42 Why Won't He STOP Drinking Alcohol? Doesn't He Love Us? The Truth About The Addicted Brain

Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

Have you ever asked yourself, “If he really loved us, why won’t he stop drinking?”

You’re not alone. So many Christian wives live in this painful confusion—trying to love, pray, and reason their way through addiction, only to feel rejected, unloved and unseen.

In this episode of Wife on the Rocks, we unpack the truth about the addicted brain and why love alone can’t undo addiction. You’ll hear:

✅ Why addiction hijacks the brain’s survival system—and why it’s not a matter of willpower or love.
✅ How logic and heartfelt pleas fall short when the brain is controlled by substance dependence.
✅ Why advice from people who don’t understand addiction often hurts more than it helps.
✅ A personal story of the naive stage of early addiction and how we think we can snap them out of it, but realizing that his addiction is stronger than we think.
✅ What it means to pray for your husband’s eyes to be opened by God in His timing.

Understanding this doesn’t make it easier—but it helped me stop taking the pain personally. There is always hope, because God is still working behind the scenes in ways you can’t see.

IT IS NOT TOO LATE!
Join the Holiday Survival Course, created for wives of alcoholics who want to identify the options you have in situations, set boundaries with grace, and focus on God’s presence in the midst of the chaos. Special Holiday Course, BUT the tools you learn are applied year-long!
👉 https://calendly.com/wifeontherocks/holiday-survival-course

📩 Have a question you’d like answered in a future episode? Want to share anything with me? Email [email protected].