The Evolution of Masculinity and the Modern Relationship

Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships.

Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’

They delve into Kristal's STRONG model of relational therapy, which includes six pillars aimed at fostering healthy relationships.

The conversation also covers the evolution of relationships, the challenges men face, and the often overlooked issue of male sexual abuse.

Kristal notes, 'The experience of the intersection of pain and helplessness is often where trauma begins,’ emphasizing the transformative power of trauma-informed and attachment-based approaches in therapy.

00:00 Welcome to Real Men Feel

00:20 Introducing Kristal DeSantis

01:18 Kristal's Journey to Therapy

04:34 Focusing on First Responders

06:54 Understanding Trauma in Relationships

09:56 The STRONG Model of Relational Therapy

19:53 Challenges Men Face in Modern Relationships

24:41 Redefining Modern Protection

25:56 Debunking Misconceptions About Men and Relationships

27:53 The New Relationship Paradigm

29:42 Navigating the Modern Dating Landscape

35:25 Men as Survivors of Abuse

43:50 Resources and Final Thoughts

Resources

STRONG: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man, Kristal DeSantis

-- https://amzn.to/3Zw3IXu

The Abuse OF Men by Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, Ann Silvers -- https://amzn.to/3XxaEB1

His History, Her Story: A Survival Guide for Spouses of Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Trauma, by Debra Warner -- https://amzn.to/4d8uZ5y

Links

Kristal DeSantis -- https://www.strong.love

Follow Kristal on IG -- www.instagram.com/atxtherapist

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