Part 1: A Deep Dive Into Trauma: The Good, The Bad and The Sad

Sex, Love, and Addiction

Dr. Rob and Dr. Johanna O’Flaherty explore trauma – what exactly is it, how does it come about, and what can you do about it? They consider the wounded healer, the importance of integrating all lived experiences to become whole again, and the role of self-forgiveness in overcoming trauma. Johanna is passionate about helping individuals heal from incident trauma, ancestral trauma, prolonged trauma, and more, and she cautions listeners against marginalizing the damaging effects of true trauma in favor of everyday difficult life experiences.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:21] A little bit about Dr. O’Flaherty and her passion for trauma recovery.

[3:54] Dr. O’Flaherty is celebrating 47 years of personal recovery.

[5:40] The archetype of the wounded healer.

[7:31] Integrating all of our experiences is an essential part of becoming whole.

[9:18] Trauma happens outside an individual’s coping skills.

[11:20] Trauma will not leave you alone until you do trauma work.

[12:31] Self forgiveness is an essential first step to overcoming reenacting.

[16:44] Ancestral trauma can impact you and the next generation.

[20:42] My husband has been cheating on me. Why does ancestral trauma matter?

[22:50] Incident trauma happens when an event changes a person’s entire life.

[25:45] The impact of combat trauma and prolonged trauma.

[28:02] The concept of trauma has been overutilized. What can you do to heal?

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Dr. Geoff Goodman

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Dr. Johanna O’Flaherty

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

• “We’re all wounded in some form or another.”
• “We have to take back those wounded parts of us that we want to banish out of our minds.”
• “A traumatic event is so extraordinary that it is outside the individual’s coping abilities.”
• “Trauma will not leave you alone. It continues to raise it’s ugly head.”
• “We go into the vortex of the pain to take the power out of the memory.”
• “That which is not transformed is transmitted to the next generation.”