Let Go & Replenish- An Elephant Prescription for Healing: Part 1

Sex, Love & Elephants with Dr. Cheryl

Sometimes our best laid plans and intentions go awry, not because of anything we’ve done, but through forces completely beyond our control. A meticulously planned holiday is disrupted by inclimate travel weather, a special occasion is ruined by a partner’s foul mood, a long-awaited trip is brought down by bad news from a friend… of course we’re left upset and disappointed. But have you ever noticed that the more we dwell on a negative situation, the worse our situation becomes? Instead of feeding into the disappointment and stress, what if you simply allowed yourself to be at peace and let your head and your heart accept the change?

Today, I’m sharing the first part of a talk I gave at a silent meditation retreat a few weeks ago in December 2021. The retreat was centered around the themes of: How can we replenish? How can we heal? How can we let go of what's hurting us? I’m excited to share this with my listeners as a lesson and a reminder that happiness in your love, relationships, and sexuality goes hand in hand with being happier, healthier, and free of suffering in your everyday lives.

In this episode, I’m talking about the most simple and profound thing any of us can develop if we want to be happier and healthier, if we want to recover from the inevitable pains and losses of life… And that is the practice of learning to let go.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• The restrictions and isolation of the last two years have made us feel, in some ways, trapped… but it doesn’t have to be that way (05:43)
• If we are in the mind state of not wanting to be here, we're in trouble. We're in suffering. We're in Dukkha (09:00)
• When we feed stress, negativity, and disappointment, it only gets worse (13:25)
• We can be so full of our ideas about what should or shouldn’t be, our ideas of what others should and shouldn't do, and our ideas of what we need to be happy that sometimes we can't just simply enjoy what is (20:05)
• If someone is causing you emotional pain, you’re not being self-pitying or desperate by hanging on, but practicing letting go is the best thing to do to ease that pain (24:41)
• Today’s LoveByte (34:23)

Q&A:

• How can learn to I be happy where I’m stuck? Normalize that anything that’s happening is okay. Observe it, allow it to rise, and let it pass away.
• How can I stop myself from overthinking everything? Practice letting go and making room when your mind is too full. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on things you cannot change and that don’t affect you.
• How do I get over the pain of someone betraying me? When we feel physical pain, we avoid or let go of the thing that’s causing it to happen. Try to follow the same logic with emotional pain.

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