Sabrina Fletcher | Clara Was Wanted: My TFMR Loss Story

Grieving Voices

In a world where discussions about loss are often shrouded in silence, there's a particular kind of grief that remains even more hidden—termination for medical reasons (TFMR).
Today on Grieving Voices, I had the honor of speaking with Sabrina Fletcher, a compassionate pregnancy loss doula who brings solace to parents facing the heart-wrenching decision of terminating a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. Sabrina bravely shared her personal journey and how she's turned her pain into purpose by supporting others through similar grief.
Key Points Discussed:

• The surprising prevalence of TFMR compared to stillbirths and the taboo surrounding it.
• The emotional turmoil and quick decisions forced upon parents facing unfavorable prenatal diagnoses.
• The grief journey taken by both Sabrina and her family following their loss, including how they each processed their emotions differently.
• Challenges within the healthcare system that fail to provide adequate support for those undergoing TFMR.
• Suggestions on improving medical care experiences during such sensitive times, including specialized bereavement care similar to practices in England.

TFMR is often shrouded in silence and taboo, but it's more common than many realize. Sabrina advocates for open conversation and emotional support that upholds the dignity of those making these tough choices out of deep love for their children.
Our discussion also highlighted how even young children experience loss deeply and need acknowledgment in their grieving process—a powerful reminder not to underestimate our little ones' emotional worlds.
Sabrina emphasizes breaking generational patterns by openly discussing grief rather than suppressing feelings – an approach shaped in contrast to what she experienced growing up, where losses were dealt with privately behind closed doors.
Remember: Transforming your grief doesn't require grand gestures; small steps are just as significant.
RESOURCES:

• TFMR Support Circle FB Group
• Endingawantedpregnancy.com
• Death with Dignity

CONNECT:

• Website
• Instagram
• Facebook

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